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October 22nd, 2008 12:21 pm MDT

Well , hello grls. I hope you are all doing well.

I want to ask you all something, relative to George Smitherman announcing recently that Ontario is going to relist sex-change surgery.

I greet this with mixed feelings, for I question whether or not it is enough. As an indivdual who lives with a sense of feeling incomplete, performing cosmetic surgery on my genitals, is fine when for I am by myself or with a lover, though it certainly is questionable whether one can enjoy their sexuality with this new non-functioning organ, for while it may look like a vagina on the outside, the truth is that it is not. Changing the look of my genitals is not going to make me feel more complete. No the truth of the matter is , our sense of who we are is greatly affected by how we are treated by others in everyday life. If I go out in woman's clothing, I know that I appear as a man in woman's clothing. And so, the vast majority of people will still refer to me in the masculine pronouns he, his, sir,etc. And this would not change with sex-change surgery. But if I had FFS then people will connect with the feminine facial features, and see me for who I am while at the same time ignoring my somewhat boxy body, for women do come in all shapes and sizes.

Finally at a more personal level, unlike some, I do not hate my penis, it isnot its fault it isn't a vagina. And in fact I can say uncategorically that my penis has brought me  and a few others a healthy amount of pleasure. Why would I want to totally lose that, especially as a lesbian.

I know some of you girls will totally disagree with me and feel it is all about the genital surgery, and girls if that is how YOU feel, I would never want to deny you that, but for me it is not how I feel.

Gender is not about sex or sexuality, it has to do more with how we interact with society as a whole. Given the choice to choose between cosmetic surgery on my genitals or cosmetic surgery on my face, I would without hesitation choose cosmetic surgery on my face.

How do you feel about this?

I propose new guidlines for transitioning m2f.

1)Year one, begin hormone replacement therapy, you will know right away if this path is right for you.

2) Year two, FFS, now you can live for a year full time and if it is right for you then move on to step 3, or continue as you are, and enjoy life.

3)and if so desired cosmetic surgery o the genitals.

 

I wonder if there maynot be a class action suit here against the Ontario Government?

 

Ciao

Frida