URNotAlone

Are we OK here?

June 22nd, 2009 6:58 pm MDT

We had further discussion--finally--on crossdressing here over the weekend. This was overdue, but interrupted by a number of strange happenings on both sides on the aisle. The chief characteristic turned out to be my spouse's nearly complete indifference to my activities.

This is helped, beyond all doubt, by the modest nature of my objectives. I've been introduced to a quiet and discreet club whose activities are quite benign and do no harm to anyone. That is about my speed at the moment. I do not dress overtly in front of my wife. Although much of my everyday attire is femme, it's one thing to wear women's boot-cut jeans and sneakers every day, and another to wear skirts and heels. It is foolishness to push the envelope. And I dress very conservatively en femme, for no other reason than it makes me comfortable.

I'm cautious because she has had a past tendency to "stuff" emotional issues, which can come boiling out at inappropriate moments. She's hurt quite a few people that way, not just me. At the same time, I'm optimistic. She ended the day by calling my attention to the features of her new handbag, at first with some diffidence, and gradually with confidence as my interest encouraged her.

One can but hope.