Looks like Vicky and I will be spending a little time in San Francisco around the July 4th Holiday and then a little time in Atlanta to attend a couple of days at the Southern Comfort Conference. No detals yet, but I'll keep My Journal updated as we solidify our plans.
Well, we just booked San Francisco for June 30th through July 5th. I can't wait to go. I use do get there twice a year for work and it's been 10 years since my last visit. It looks like we'll be starting out at the Edinburgh Castle around 9:30pm on Friday to see Lipstick Conspiracy perform and then heading down the block to Diva's around 11:00-11:30pm for drinks afterwards and and we both hope to see some familiar faces there. As for Saturday night, so far we have plans for dinner at AsiaSF. We're not sure if we'll spend the evening there or wind up at Diva's after dinner or somewhere else. The rest of our San Francisco trip is pretty much up in the air.
We've booked SCC for the Friday and Saturday Package. We'll arrive in Atlanta on Thursday, 9/21, attend the Conference itself on Friday and Saturday, spend time with a good friend on Sunday and head back to Boston on Monday, 9/25. We're both looking forward to seeing some familiar faces and some we've never seen before.
Ana Cristina García June 12th, 2006 10:13 am MDTMy name is Ana Cristina García and I am your typical heterosexual cross-dresser. Born and raised in Guatemala, I have lived here all my life except for a three-year period in which I lived in the U.S. I am happily married to the most wonderful woman. She is, without a doubt, my soul mate and even though she would prefer I did not have to dress, she understands my needs and accepts me for what I am. She knew about Cristy from the time we were just friends and was very supportive from day one. We have been married for 15 years now and have a wonderful family of which I am extremely proud. My wife and kids are the center of my life.
When and how did I start dressing? (A brief history of my cross-dressing)
I have memories of hiding in my mother’s closet to try things on that go back to when I was about 3 years old. By age ten I had learned to put on makeup and by sixteen I was quite proficient at it. It was at around that age that I got my first wig and transformed completely into a girl for the first time. During all that time I was in the closet, relying on my mothers clothes and shoes and taking any chance I had to be home alone to indulge in my passion.
At age 17, I went to college. Unlike the U.S. and other countries, since Guatemala is such a small country and universities are near by and do not have dorms, you stay at your parents’ home all that time. Therefore, my situation did not change much except for the fact that I told my parents about my cross-dressing and years of therapy with psychologists and shrinks began. Dressing became harder as my parents were doing all they could to prevent me from doing it. However, I could always find the way to go about it. If one thing came out of about 8 years of, on and off, therapy was that I realized how little shrinks knew about gender identity issues in general and cross-dressing in particular. I guess there were no experts in the field then and there were still many issues to be discovered about it.
After getting my undergraduate degree, I went straight to graduate school in the Mid-Western U.S. For the first time in my life I had the liberty I needed to dress as I pleased. As soon as I found a place to live, I shaved my legs for the first time ever and went out to buy clothes, shoes, makeup and a wig. From then on, any free time I had I would dress. I went out often; usually to clothing and shoe stores to increase my wardrobe. I went out alone all the time and never tried to contact or find out about other transgendered people.
I was having the time of my life as a girl and that got me very confused about my gender identity. The Internet was in its very early days and access was limited to a few people in government and academics so I used to spend a lot of time in the library of the school of psychology gathering all the information I could. At this point I was very confused and had doubts about being transsexual. I never felt attracted to boys but I enjoyed being perceived as a girl by others. In my desperation to share my secret with someone else I told this girl friend I had from Guatemala. I asked her to help me by going out as two girls and showed her the pictures I had taken of me dressed. Before making a decision she asked to see how I looked in person since she would not go out with an obvious guy in a dress. When she first saw me dressed and all made up in person her first words were: “Wow, you are a fox”. I had not had any problems passing so far and her comment gave me even more confidence. She agreed to go out with me as a girl but said she needed to do something first.
She went to the University Health Center and consulted with therapists there if it was ok for her to do what I had asked for. She was told that she would not do me any harm but that they would like to see me so she scheduled an appointment for me. It was until then that I learned more about the differences between being a TS and a CD. I learned that you are born TS or CD and that there was no cure for either condition. I felt so relieved to realize that I was not a pervert or a freak, and that there was a reason behind my behavior. I also learned that there were many people like me and they recommended that I joined a support group to learn to deal with all that.
I never joined a support group and started going out with my friend. We went to restaurants, discotheques, sightseeing and of course shopping. As my confusion regarding my gender identity was not completely resolved I decided to go to group therapy for transsexuals. After the second meeting I realized I was not transsexual. What I had gone through was nothing compared to what a transsexual individual has to go through. I came to realize that I was just a heterosexual cross-dresser. I was a normal male in all aspects except for the fact that I derived pleasure in transforming into and seeing myself as a female. As I had understood what I was, I also gained deep respect and admiration for transsexuals and their determination to go to all what is needed to make their bodies match their minds.
My girl friend and I continued going out as girls on a regular basis until something unexpected or maybe very expected happened. I was spending more time with her as a male as we had become very good friends and before we knew it, we got very much in love. She started to remove herself gradually from Cristy and not going out with her as often, until one day she decided not to do it anymore. I completely understood and continued going out by myself but not for much longer as my time to return home was getting closer. By that time we had decided to get married. After completing her masters, she returned to Guatemala 3 months after I did. We got engaged then and married six months later.
Before returning home I had purged my entire female wardrobe, which, by then, was larger than my male wardrobe. So I was back home, back in the closet and with no clothes. I bought some shoes, clothes, a wig and makeup and dressed occasionally in the privacy of my home. After getting married I gained access to my wife’s wardrobe only this time without her consent. She, as many knowing wives, thought that I would not need to dress now that I was happily married. Well, we all know that is never the case. After a few times she caught me dressing and discussing about it, we worked out the deal we have to this date; a deal with which I am very happy and can’t complain about.
I get to dress once a month usually on a weekend. Our children don’t know and since they are still kids, we arrange for them to go spend Saturday night over at their grandma’s. I have complete and unrestricted access to her wardrobe as we both wear size 8 and the only things I need to buy for myself are shoes, makeup and wigs. I am not allowed to go out dressed, so I stay home and take pictures, especially now that digital photography has made it so easy for us. Sometimes she stays with me while dressed and sometimes not, depending on whether she is in a mood to stand to see her husband dressed as a girl. Another thing she has requested is that, when she stays with me, I use my normal (male) voice to talk. It is very difficult for a wife to accept and deal with her husbands cross-dressing and I consider myself very blessed to have found the perfect wife, friend and confidant for me, and mother for my children. And on top of that, she understands, tolerates and even helps me with this unusual hobby of mine. How does she help? Well, first of all by accepting it and then by going with me when I need to buy shoes and makeup. She also gives me constructive criticism and sometimes even styles my hair or takes a close-up photo. I could not ask for more and will forever be thankful to God for bringing us together.
Two years ago (June 6, 2004), I decided to do something I never thought I would dare to do; something that has changed my life as a transgendered person in ways I could have not imagine. All of the sudden and after years of visiting TG sites in the web, without even considering it; I decided to put up profiles in the Internet at Yahoo and Urnotalone. I never thought I would have the courage but I just did it. My intention in doing it was to meet people like me and to help with advice, given my experience, to those who were confused as I had been years ago.
From day one I started to meet very nice people from all over the world. Most of them contacted me to compliment my looks and it made me feel very flattered to a point that I almost lost track of my original intentions. However, as the compliments and small talk gave way to meeting the people behind the makeup and dresses, I started making incredible friendships. Today, I can say that my Internet TG friends occupy a very important place in my life.
Little could I imagine as I uploaded my Urnotalone profile that, a year later, I would have made so many friends, have won the member of the month ratings for February 2005 and that Miss Vicki Rene would ask me to join her prestigious site and select me to be the Lady of the Month for August 2005. I cannot ask much more and consider myself the luckiest and happiest man and woman in the world.
In July, 2005, I betrayed my wife’s trust and went out dressed to the mall. After 17 years of being in the closet I had to find out if I still had it in me and given the opportunity I just could not stop myself. I went shopping for shoes and interacted with people flawlessly. I did not get one questionable look and I was taken for a girl in every store I entered. I would ask questions go straight to the clerks and look them in the face with total confidence. I had the time of my life but felt guilty about keeping it from my wife. A month later I came clean to her and hell broke loose. However, being the soul mates that we are we patched things up almost immediately but my wife felt betrayed and I felt really bad. This incident made my wife realize how important it is for a cross-dresser to be out and about and we started talking about possibilities for me to go out as Cristy. We talked about going together in a foreign country but have not had the chance. It was not until February of 2006 that she agreed to let me go out dressed here in town provided that some precautionary measures are taken. As I update this biography to be published as a 360 blog and urnotalone journal entry, my first time out as Cristy with my wife’s consent in the married era is about to become a sweet reality. Tomorrow, June 13, 2006; almost a year after my furtive outing, I will go out dressed. I am very excited about and a bit nervous but can’t wait for it to happen. I will tell you all about it in a separate entry.
From now on, any updates to my bio will be added as separate blog or journal entries.
Statistical information:
Age: 45
Height: 1.68 m – 5’-6”
Weight: 65 kg – 143 lbs
Dress size: 8
Shoe size: 9 US
Measurements: I don’t know and any numbers would be fictitious any way.
Sexual preference: I only like women (GG) and are 100% faithful and loyal to my wife.
Hobbies: Spending time with my family, tennis, water skiing, watching most sports, my job and, I almost forgot, cross-dressing.
Other web profiles:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/cristy98girl/
http://www.youtube.com/user/cristy98girl
http://360.yahoo.com/cristy98girl
http://profiles.urnotalone.com/cristybabe
Some more details about me:
I have studied female behavior all my life, paying close attention to detail. That, together with my being a pathological perfectionist has helped me achieve an acceptable female image even though I am a very masculine man. I enjoy taking pictures and since I do not go out dressed often, I take a lot. I like to project a classy and feminine image of a woman my age. Since the clothes I wear are my wife’s I have no problem achieving it at least in the fashion sense. I am very comfortable with the look I present and do not plan on changing it from wig and makeup to clothes. I do my own makeup as I have had more than 30 years of experience applying it. I learned first reading beauty magazines, then practicing and experimenting and now, like with the other aspects of my image, I am very comfortable with how it turns out and do not change it much.
I have never done nor will I do lingerie shots. Why? Well, first of all because I am not comfortable doing them and secondly, because I am not equipped to do them. What I mean is that I am a man doing my best, with makeup, wig and clothing, to look like a real woman. I do not shave any part of my body and have to rely on wearing double and even triple pantyhose to make my legs presentable. My male body does not come even close to looking like that of a woman. Given all that, why would I risk spoiling the illusion with a futile attempt at something I know I am not capable of achieving with a high degree of success? By the same token, I rarely wear short-sleeved or spaghetti-strapped dresses or tops, as my arms are definitely more muscular than those of a real woman. In short, as a cross-dresser who enjoys transforming himself into a passable woman, I know my limitations and stick to what I can wear without spoiling the illusion.
I love to have a virtual life as a female and feel very close to my TG friends. I will never regret giving Cristy her own place and space in the Internet and look forward to meeting many more friends in the future.
This is the weekend of the Boston Pride Parade. It starts at noon on Saturday (6/10). Vicky and I have friends coming up from Miami and Puerto Rico, so it should be a crazy weekend... and... Jacques Cabaret will be open until 1:00 AM Friday and Saturday... they got a 1 hour extension for Pride. Hope to see lots of people out and about this weekend!
The Festivities have begun... a few of the gang after Jacques closed at our place last night... warming up for the Pride Parade today...
Well, it rained during the Parade... but... it was a blast! Here's a pic...
Tiffany Leigh June 4th, 2006 11:09 am MDTHey everyone-- This Saturday, June 10th we're throwing a next Triangles party in Danbury, CT. Only an hour north of NYC. We're expecting a HUGE turnout, and friends are coming from all over the country to be there! Check out the website link or join my group for directions, hotel info, and club info -- hope to see y'all there!! http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FriendsOfTriangles/ Triangles Cafe 66 Sugar Hollow Rd Danbury, CT 06810-7530, US http://www.trianglescafe.com/
Tiffany Leigh June 3rd, 2006 7:40 am MDTSome of you knew Roxy, or have at least heard by now that she suddenly passed away in May. She meant a lot of things to a lot of people, myself included. I included some thoughts and memories of her on my latest blog entry at this link = http://tiffleigh.livejournal.com/76085.html
We got back last night from 6 days in Ft. Lauderdale for Fetish Factory's 11th Anniverary Events. We all had a great time. Cameras weren't allowed in the Events so the only pics I have to post were some taken the nights we were at Trixie's Bar (Vicky and I both Highly Recommend you check it out if you're in the Hollywood, FL Area) and some pics from South Beach. They can be found in My Southern Florida May 2006 Gallery.
Vicky and I, Dan and Gwen along with Black Widow are having a blast at Fetish Factory's 11th Anniversary Weekend in Ft. Lauderdale. We'll all be at Club Cinema in Pompano Beach tonight for the Big Event, The Fetish Ball Tonight along with our close friend Diamond Dunhill. Vicky and I, possibly Dan and Gwen will be back at Trixie's Bar tomorrow night. We had a blast there Wednesday and Thursday night and are looking forward to going back tomorrow night. Hope to see you at the Fetish Ball tonight or at Trixie's Bar tomorrow night.
I thought I'd add a pic of us getting ready for Fetish Factory's Uniformity Event on Friday...
Dan, Gwen and Black Widow will be arriving in Ft. Lauderdale on Friday. We only get together in the same place once or twice a year, so we're all looking forward to it.
Vicky and I plan on being at Trixie's Bar in Hollywood tomorrow night (Thursday). We also hope to get there with the whole gang on another night, we're just not sure which night that would be just yet... I'll update my Journal again if we can manage to find the time for all of us to get there together.
We're all hoping to see alot of the people we've corresponded with but haven't yet met at the FF Event or at Trixie's Bar... so... we hope to see you in Florida...
Vicky and I watched Breakfast on Pluto last night and we can both Highly recommend it. Cillian Murphy put in a superb performance as Patrick "Kitten" Brady. It's a story of a Boy who was abandoned and left on a doorstep as an infant and who grows up in a small town in Ireland in the 1970's. He goes to London in search of his Mother and it leads "Kitten" on a journey of self discovery. This is one of the better movies we've seen in a long time.
Lisa Gayle Harris May 7th, 2006 10:52 am MDTI've kind of avoided posting to this journal, being such an old person and not into things like blogging, but it's gotten to the point that I have to do something. In the past couple of weeks I have gotten so many guestbook comments, all so complimentary, that I have to thank everyone. It's a little humbling and very heartwarming to find all those nice things people have left for me to read.I don't feel right clogging up everyone elses guestbook with thank yous but it's not right to never respond either so I guess this is one way to do that.Didi, Jayne, Sarah, Heather, Sandra, Lya, Allason, Judy, Amanda, Aleli, Wendy and Lilly Thank you so much. You're all so sweet. Jo-Ann, compliments from the Sassy Cat are special. Thank you Mandy Taylor, Brenda Miller, Bobbi, you know I love you girls. Thank you for being friends and supporting me.And to anyone I missed too. I'm a lucky girl to have so many friends here.
Well, we just got back from LA. Didn't really sample the nightlife, although we did stop in at The Lodge in North Hollywood... on... Karaoke Night. Also found out that it's been bought and in another month or so it will be just another Straight Bar...
Unfortunately, I had trouble connecting my Powerbook while in LA so I couldn't get my eMail... I'm pulling it down now and it's on message 4400 of 12,265... so bear with me, it will take me several days to go through and delete what's SPAM and answer the rest...
Here's a pic taken while we were driving along Mullholland Drive in the Hollywood Hills...
Well, everyone has seen the specs on Jon's new computer. What most of you don't know is that I just purchased a new computer as well. I just received a brand spanking new 20" iMac Intel Core Duo. I have to admit, I'm incredibly impressed.
The system has a 2 GHz Intel Core Duo CPU, 1 GB of RAM, 256 MB of VRAM and a 250 GB HD. it has built in wireless, build in Bluetooth and a built in iSight web cam. I haven't even manage to slow this thing down yet. Just for fun, I bough a copy of Doom 3 for the mac. It runs with all of the setting maxed out and even then, it only drops a few frames.
So why did I spend the cash? Well, sadly, its not because I'm rich. I recently broke my ankle and getting up and down three flights of stairs was killing me. Now I can have a system in the second floor bedroom and my stair climbing is kept to a minimum. Now if I could only talk Gwen into putting a coffee maker on this floor. :)
Oh well, if nothing else, I have a shiny new computer. It's not as cool as Jon's, but its still the best computer I've ever owned.
Well... I have business in L.A. so Vicky and I are heading out to L.A. this Sunday, April 30th until next Thursday, May 4th. I'll be really busy during the days but hope to have some free time in the evenings. It's Vicky's 1st visit to L.A. and I haven't been there in about 10 years.
If anyone has any suggestions on where to go in the evenings (we'll potentially have Sunday, Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday evenings free) could you post the info on where to go and on which night as a reply to this posting?
I'm not sure which of the nights we'll actually have free time, but it would be nice to know what's going on in the Tranny Scene in L.A. on those nights in case we do get a chance to go out...
I got it... my new Desktop PC... spent yesterday and a good chunk of today installing all the Software I use... Adobe Photoshop CS2, Ulead Video Studio 9, ACDSee 7, MySQL-Front, WS FTP Pro, Putty, Logitech Webcam Software, HP PSC 2210 All In One Software, etc. My new setup now consists of:
Dell XPS 600 Pentium Extreme Edition 955 w/ Dual Core (3.46GHz, 4MB Cache) 2GB Dual Channel DDR2 SDRAM at 667MHz C Drive: 250GB Data Security RAID 1 (2 x 250GB SATA HDDs) D Drive: 250GB 1.5TB External Firewire Drives 24 inch UltraSharp™ 2405FPW at 1920x1200 w/Card Reader Samsung SyncMaster 930B Secondary Monitor at 1280x1024 256MB Nvidia GeForce 7800 GTX Windows® XP Professional SP2 48x CD-RW Drive + 16x DVD+/-RW w/ double layer write capable Sound Sound Blaster Audigy™ 2 ZS (D) Card w/Dolby 5.1, IEEE 1394 capability
The machine flies... thanks to the Pentium Extreme Edition 955. It's not only Dual Core but each Core is HyperThreaded, giving it the ability to run 4 processes simultaneously... and the 24" Monitor running at 1920x1200 is Phenomenal.
Ok, so we started limiting the number of pages that people can "next" through in the People (Profile) Section of the Site to 10 Pages unless you have an Approved & Visible Profile of your own or unless you've purchased a Subscription, either URNA Plus or Full Access.
We feel that with all the Search Options we make available:
By Location By Distance from Postal Code By Age Range By Group By Category By Orientation By Gender By Names Containing and more...
anyone should be able to narrow their search down to 10 Pages (there are 20 Profiles per page, so that's 200 Profiles). And, any Visitor can just go in and Sort by Newest to Oldest or Last Updated and they'll see all the Profiles that were added or modified in the last week or so.
Nevertheless, as we expected, people who've never contributed to the costs of running URNA are starting to send eMails with things like:
"You People Suck" "I'm going to find a site that's Free" "We knew you'd sell out"
Personally, I don't think we Suck. I think we give an awful lot away for Free including the ability to contact Profile Holders without putting up a Profile of your own or without paying us anything.
As for finding a site that's Free. I can guarantee you, unless it's run by someone who's independently wealthy, you won't find another site with as many Genuine Profiles and Features as URNA for Free. The reality is that it cost a small fortune in bandwidth charges once a site gets to the point that URNA is at. We currently average about 8,000,000 (that's Eight Million) Hits per day. Even with that we still give you an Incredible Amount of Features for Free.
As for selling out. That just isn't true. Starting to put limits in place for people who have never contributed and who hit the site every day, "next'ing" through the pages, sucking down bandwidth, is, we think, a reasonable thing to do and something we probably should have done a long time ago.
Also, remember, the point of URNA is to build a Community of Transgendered People, Admirer's, Friends and Family. Someone who never puts up a Profile of their own and who never contributes in any way, really isn't helping to contribute to our Community here at URNA.
Anyway, opinions are welcome, whether you agree with what we've done and what we're doing or even if you don't.
Lots on my mind... Lots on our minds... Lots of Long Term Planning and decisions that have to be made...
So... we would really love to be able to get out of the Adult Content end of this business...
At present, Adult Content (ModelTS Full Access Subscriptions) generates 2/3's of URNA Revenue.
If we stop providing Adult Content... it will eliminate some of our costs:
- Bandwidth will go down somewhat (our single largest cost)
- No more model costs
- No Lingerie costs
- No more need to invest in Expensive Camera and related Equipment
It will also eliminate a ton of work...
- Photoshoots
- Putting together the Sets for the Photoshoots
- Image Editing
- Video Capture
- Video Editing
The problem is that it won't eliminate as much in Costs as it will in Income. It's the ModelTS Full Access Subscription Holders who've been subsidizing URNA since December of 1999.
How would we make up for the Shortfall if we eliminate ModelTS?
- Add even more Features for URNA Plus Members? Will our URNA Plus Subscriber Base grow?
- Do we put more limits on what Non-Profile Holders and Non-Subscription Holders can do on the site to help lower our bandwidth costs further?
- It will enable us to use Paypal for Purchasing URNA Plus Subscriptions... will this help grow the URNA Plus Subscriber base?
- It will allow us to Join Partner Programs like Google Adsense and others that prohibit participation for Sites that have Adult Content. Will this additional revenue amount to anything?
- Will eliminating Adult Content give us more "Respectability" within the TG Community? If so, will this translate into more Advertisers and more Profile Holders or do people really not care that we have an Adult Content Section?
- Will people that enjoy our Adult Content and have helped subsidize the cost of running URNA by purchasing Adult Content Subscriptions abandon us altogether?
Will eliminating the Adult Content Subscriptions be the downfall of URNA and cause us to be unable to afford to keep it going or will it help and actually allow us to grow URNA further and encourage more people to contribute to the costs of running URNA?
As I began this Posting... Lots on my mind... Lots on our minds... Lots of Long Term Planning and Decisions that have to be made...
Input, Thoughts, Ideas and Opinions appreciated...
I don't understand people that hit on people that they know are in a long term relationship. People that see a Profile that states... "I'm in a committed relationship. I am not interested in being hit on"... and yet they proceed to hit on the person.
When someone then sends an eMail or IM's the Profile Holder mentioned above and asks... are you still in a relationship... receives the answer - yes... and then proceeds with things like:
Can we meet? I'm discreet, no one will know... or... I can get a room near you if you can sneak out... or... I'm in Vegas, I can fly you here and pay for the room, just say you're going to visit a friend... or... I love you so much, I'd do anything for you... or... I need you so bad that I'll do anything to be with you... or... I'm very wealthy, I can give you anything you want... or... use your imaginations... any of thousands or sexually explicit suggestions could go here
What kind of person does this?
How would they react if it were their partner being hit on like this?
If it's someone they've initiated the conversation with via an URNA Profile and the URNA Profile states they're not interested in being hit on should we ban people that do this if we receive a complaint with a transcript of the behavior?
Of the one's that are married or in relationships of their own, are they too stupid to realize that their conversations could be forwarded to their partners with just a little bit of research?
Anyway, it's something that's been on my mind... Vicky gets so much of this crap that it's disgusting... and if anyone who's contacted her like this and is reading this, yes, she does show it to me.
This has nothing to do with the Transgendered Community other than very indirectly. It's an example of unbelievable intolerance and the attempt to force others to conform.
Here's a short summary from the beginning of the article...
"An Afghan man facing a possible death penalty for converting from Islam to Christianity may be mentally unfit to stand trial, a state prosecutor has said.
Abdul Rahman has been charged with rejecting Islam, a crime under Afghanistan's Islamic laws. His trial started last week and he confessed to becoming a Christian 16 years ago. If convicted, he could be executed."
Can you believe this shit. It's the 21st Century. American Soldiers fought and died to free Afghanistan from the Taliban and we allow them to even consider laws like this? I can't believe that Afghanistan, after the overthrow of the Taliban and with US Troops still on it's soil to prop up it's government, is even permitted to have a Death Penalty for Apostasy. What is this bullshit?
People always say you have to respect other people's culture. Well, I totally disagree with that sentiment. Other peoples cultures have to earn your respect and a culture that puts up with this crap is one that's not worthy of respect by anyone.
Sorry, I read this and had to rant it pissed me off so much.
Some Travel Coming Up
Jon June 15th, 2006 12:08 pm MDTLooks like Vicky and I will be spending a little time in San Francisco around the July 4th Holiday and then a little time in Atlanta to attend a couple of days at the Southern Comfort Conference. No detals yet, but I'll keep My Journal updated as we solidify our plans.
Well, we just booked San Francisco for June 30th through July 5th. I can't wait to go. I use do get there twice a year for work and it's been 10 years since my last visit. It looks like we'll be starting out at the Edinburgh Castle around 9:30pm on Friday to see Lipstick Conspiracy perform and then heading down the block to Diva's around 11:00-11:30pm for drinks afterwards and and we both hope to see some familiar faces there. As for Saturday night, so far we have plans for dinner at AsiaSF. We're not sure if we'll spend the evening there or wind up at Diva's after dinner or somewhere else. The rest of our San Francisco trip is pretty much up in the air.
We've booked SCC for the Friday and Saturday Package. We'll arrive in Atlanta on Thursday, 9/21, attend the Conference itself on Friday and Saturday, spend time with a good friend on Sunday and head back to Boston on Monday, 9/25. We're both looking forward to seeing some familiar faces and some we've never seen before.
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New Business Cards
Jon June 13th, 2006 1:19 pm MDTSo, what do you think. Dan did the design. I like them, they're two sided cards :)
Here's the Front...
and... here's the Back...
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Cristy's Biography
Ana Cristina García June 12th, 2006 10:13 am MDTMy name is Ana Cristina García and I am your typical heterosexual cross-dresser. Born and raised in Guatemala, I have lived here all my life except for a three-year period in which I lived in the U.S. I am happily married to the most wonderful woman. She is, without a doubt, my soul mate and even though she would prefer I did not have to dress, she understands my needs and accepts me for what I am. She knew about Cristy from the time we were just friends and was very supportive from day one. We have been married for 15 years now and have a wonderful family of which I am extremely proud. My wife and kids are the center of my life.When and how did I start dressing? (A brief history of my cross-dressing)
I have memories of hiding in my mother’s closet to try things on that go back to when I was about 3 years old. By age ten I had learned to put on makeup and by sixteen I was quite proficient at it. It was at around that age that I got my first wig and transformed completely into a girl for the first time. During all that time I was in the closet, relying on my mothers clothes and shoes and taking any chance I had to be home alone to indulge in my passion.
At age 17, I went to college. Unlike the U.S. and other countries, since Guatemala is such a small country and universities are near by and do not have dorms, you stay at your parents’ home all that time. Therefore, my situation did not change much except for the fact that I told my parents about my cross-dressing and years of therapy with psychologists and shrinks began. Dressing became harder as my parents were doing all they could to prevent me from doing it. However, I could always find the way to go about it. If one thing came out of about 8 years of, on and off, therapy was that I realized how little shrinks knew about gender identity issues in general and cross-dressing in particular. I guess there were no experts in the field then and there were still many issues to be discovered about it.
After getting my undergraduate degree, I went straight to graduate school in the Mid-Western U.S. For the first time in my life I had the liberty I needed to dress as I pleased. As soon as I found a place to live, I shaved my legs for the first time ever and went out to buy clothes, shoes, makeup and a wig. From then on, any free time I had I would dress. I went out often; usually to clothing and shoe stores to increase my wardrobe. I went out alone all the time and never tried to contact or find out about other transgendered people.
I was having the time of my life as a girl and that got me very confused about my gender identity. The Internet was in its very early days and access was limited to a few people in government and academics so I used to spend a lot of time in the library of the school of psychology gathering all the information I could. At this point I was very confused and had doubts about being transsexual. I never felt attracted to boys but I enjoyed being perceived as a girl by others. In my desperation to share my secret with someone else I told this girl friend I had from Guatemala. I asked her to help me by going out as two girls and showed her the pictures I had taken of me dressed. Before making a decision she asked to see how I looked in person since she would not go out with an obvious guy in a dress. When she first saw me dressed and all made up in person her first words were: “Wow, you are a fox”. I had not had any problems passing so far and her comment gave me even more confidence. She agreed to go out with me as a girl but said she needed to do something first.
She went to the University Health Center and consulted with therapists there if it was ok for her to do what I had asked for. She was told that she would not do me any harm but that they would like to see me so she scheduled an appointment for me. It was until then that I learned more about the differences between being a TS and a CD. I learned that you are born TS or CD and that there was no cure for either condition. I felt so relieved to realize that I was not a pervert or a freak, and that there was a reason behind my behavior. I also learned that there were many people like me and they recommended that I joined a support group to learn to deal with all that.
I never joined a support group and started going out with my friend. We went to restaurants, discotheques, sightseeing and of course shopping. As my confusion regarding my gender identity was not completely resolved I decided to go to group therapy for transsexuals. After the second meeting I realized I was not transsexual. What I had gone through was nothing compared to what a transsexual individual has to go through. I came to realize that I was just a heterosexual cross-dresser. I was a normal male in all aspects except for the fact that I derived pleasure in transforming into and seeing myself as a female. As I had understood what I was, I also gained deep respect and admiration for transsexuals and their determination to go to all what is needed to make their bodies match their minds.
My girl friend and I continued going out as girls on a regular basis until something unexpected or maybe very expected happened. I was spending more time with her as a male as we had become very good friends and before we knew it, we got very much in love. She started to remove herself gradually from Cristy and not going out with her as often, until one day she decided not to do it anymore. I completely understood and continued going out by myself but not for much longer as my time to return home was getting closer. By that time we had decided to get married. After completing her masters, she returned to Guatemala 3 months after I did. We got engaged then and married six months later.
Before returning home I had purged my entire female wardrobe, which, by then, was larger than my male wardrobe. So I was back home, back in the closet and with no clothes. I bought some shoes, clothes, a wig and makeup and dressed occasionally in the privacy of my home. After getting married I gained access to my wife’s wardrobe only this time without her consent. She, as many knowing wives, thought that I would not need to dress now that I was happily married. Well, we all know that is never the case. After a few times she caught me dressing and discussing about it, we worked out the deal we have to this date; a deal with which I am very happy and can’t complain about.
I get to dress once a month usually on a weekend. Our children don’t know and since they are still kids, we arrange for them to go spend Saturday night over at their grandma’s. I have complete and unrestricted access to her wardrobe as we both wear size 8 and the only things I need to buy for myself are shoes, makeup and wigs. I am not allowed to go out dressed, so I stay home and take pictures, especially now that digital photography has made it so easy for us. Sometimes she stays with me while dressed and sometimes not, depending on whether she is in a mood to stand to see her husband dressed as a girl. Another thing she has requested is that, when she stays with me, I use my normal (male) voice to talk. It is very difficult for a wife to accept and deal with her husbands cross-dressing and I consider myself very blessed to have found the perfect wife, friend and confidant for me, and mother for my children. And on top of that, she understands, tolerates and even helps me with this unusual hobby of mine. How does she help? Well, first of all by accepting it and then by going with me when I need to buy shoes and makeup. She also gives me constructive criticism and sometimes even styles my hair or takes a close-up photo. I could not ask for more and will forever be thankful to God for bringing us together.
Two years ago (June 6, 2004), I decided to do something I never thought I would dare to do; something that has changed my life as a transgendered person in ways I could have not imagine. All of the sudden and after years of visiting TG sites in the web, without even considering it; I decided to put up profiles in the Internet at Yahoo and Urnotalone. I never thought I would have the courage but I just did it. My intention in doing it was to meet people like me and to help with advice, given my experience, to those who were confused as I had been years ago.
From day one I started to meet very nice people from all over the world. Most of them contacted me to compliment my looks and it made me feel very flattered to a point that I almost lost track of my original intentions. However, as the compliments and small talk gave way to meeting the people behind the makeup and dresses, I started making incredible friendships. Today, I can say that my Internet TG friends occupy a very important place in my life.
Little could I imagine as I uploaded my Urnotalone profile that, a year later, I would have made so many friends, have won the member of the month ratings for February 2005 and that Miss Vicki Rene would ask me to join her prestigious site and select me to be the Lady of the Month for August 2005. I cannot ask much more and consider myself the luckiest and happiest man and woman in the world.
In July, 2005, I betrayed my wife’s trust and went out dressed to the mall. After 17 years of being in the closet I had to find out if I still had it in me and given the opportunity I just could not stop myself. I went shopping for shoes and interacted with people flawlessly. I did not get one questionable look and I was taken for a girl in every store I entered. I would ask questions go straight to the clerks and look them in the face with total confidence. I had the time of my life but felt guilty about keeping it from my wife. A month later I came clean to her and hell broke loose. However, being the soul mates that we are we patched things up almost immediately but my wife felt betrayed and I felt really bad. This incident made my wife realize how important it is for a cross-dresser to be out and about and we started talking about possibilities for me to go out as Cristy. We talked about going together in a foreign country but have not had the chance. It was not until February of 2006 that she agreed to let me go out dressed here in town provided that some precautionary measures are taken. As I update this biography to be published as a 360 blog and urnotalone journal entry, my first time out as Cristy with my wife’s consent in the married era is about to become a sweet reality. Tomorrow, June 13, 2006; almost a year after my furtive outing, I will go out dressed. I am very excited about and a bit nervous but can’t wait for it to happen. I will tell you all about it in a separate entry.
From now on, any updates to my bio will be added as separate blog or journal entries.
Statistical information:
Age: 45
Height: 1.68 m – 5’-6”
Weight: 65 kg – 143 lbs
Dress size: 8
Shoe size: 9 US
Measurements: I don’t know and any numbers would be fictitious any way.
Sexual preference: I only like women (GG) and are 100% faithful and loyal to my wife.
Hobbies: Spending time with my family, tennis, water skiing, watching most sports, my job and, I almost forgot, cross-dressing.
Other web profiles:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/cristy98girl/
http://www.youtube.com/user/cristy98girl
http://360.yahoo.com/cristy98girl
http://profiles.urnotalone.com/cristybabe
Some more details about me:
I have studied female behavior all my life, paying close attention to detail. That, together with my being a pathological perfectionist has helped me achieve an acceptable female image even though I am a very masculine man. I enjoy taking pictures and since I do not go out dressed often, I take a lot. I like to project a classy and feminine image of a woman my age. Since the clothes I wear are my wife’s I have no problem achieving it at least in the fashion sense. I am very comfortable with the look I present and do not plan on changing it from wig and makeup to clothes. I do my own makeup as I have had more than 30 years of experience applying it. I learned first reading beauty magazines, then practicing and experimenting and now, like with the other aspects of my image, I am very comfortable with how it turns out and do not change it much.
I have never done nor will I do lingerie shots. Why? Well, first of all because I am not comfortable doing them and secondly, because I am not equipped to do them. What I mean is that I am a man doing my best, with makeup, wig and clothing, to look like a real woman. I do not shave any part of my body and have to rely on wearing double and even triple pantyhose to make my legs presentable. My male body does not come even close to looking like that of a woman. Given all that, why would I risk spoiling the illusion with a futile attempt at something I know I am not capable of achieving with a high degree of success? By the same token, I rarely wear short-sleeved or spaghetti-strapped dresses or tops, as my arms are definitely more muscular than those of a real woman. In short, as a cross-dresser who enjoys transforming himself into a passable woman, I know my limitations and stick to what I can wear without spoiling the illusion.
I love to have a virtual life as a female and feel very close to my TG friends. I will never regret giving Cristy her own place and space in the Internet and look forward to meeting many more friends in the future.
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Boston Pride Parade
Jon June 8th, 2006 5:57 am MDTThis is the weekend of the Boston Pride Parade. It starts at noon on Saturday (6/10). Vicky and I have friends coming up from Miami and Puerto Rico, so it should be a crazy weekend... and... Jacques Cabaret will be open until 1:00 AM Friday and Saturday... they got a 1 hour extension for Pride. Hope to see lots of people out and about this weekend!
The Festivities have begun... a few of the gang after Jacques closed at our place last night... warming up for the Pride Parade today...
Well, it rained during the Parade... but... it was a blast! Here's a pic...
Check out my URNA Gallery - Boston Pride Weekend - June 2006 for more pics...
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In Columbus Ohio? Plans Saturday?
Dan™ A Saint James June 7th, 2006 1:52 pm MDTTHIS SATURDAY! Come get your voodoo on with the crowd at Outland Nightclub.
A great theme party is planned with tons of prizes and lots of eye candy so hopefully you can make it. The cover at the door remains thee same.
It's just an excuse to get dressed up and have some fun. Hope to see you there! outlandnightclub.com
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Saturday June 10th Party in Danbury, CT at Triangles =)
Tiffany Leigh June 4th, 2006 11:09 am MDTHey everyone-- This Saturday, June 10th we're throwing a next Triangles party in Danbury, CT. Only an hour north of NYC. We're expecting a HUGE turnout, and friends are coming from all over the country to be there! Check out the website link or join my group for directions, hotel info, and club info -- hope to see y'all there!! http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FriendsOfTriangles/ Triangles Cafe 66 Sugar Hollow Rd Danbury, CT 06810-7530, US http://www.trianglescafe.com/[Comment on this post]
In Memory: Roxy Rush
Tiffany Leigh June 3rd, 2006 7:40 am MDTSome of you knew Roxy, or have at least heard by now that she suddenly passed away in May. She meant a lot of things to a lot of people, myself included. I included some thoughts and memories of her on my latest blog entry at this link = http://tiffleigh.livejournal.com/76085.html[Comment on this post]
URNA Crew back from Ft. Lauderdale
Jon May 31st, 2006 8:42 am MDTWe got back last night from 6 days in Ft. Lauderdale for Fetish Factory's 11th Anniverary Events. We all had a great time. Cameras weren't allowed in the Events so the only pics I have to post were some taken the nights we were at Trixie's Bar (Vicky and I both Highly Recommend you check it out if you're in the Hollywood, FL Area) and some pics from South Beach. They can be found in My Southern Florida May 2006 Gallery.
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Trixie's Sunday Night!
Jon May 27th, 2006 12:10 pm MDTVicky and I, Dan and Gwen along with Black Widow are having a blast at Fetish Factory's 11th Anniversary Weekend in Ft. Lauderdale. We'll all be at Club Cinema in Pompano Beach tonight for the Big Event, The Fetish Ball Tonight along with our close friend Diamond Dunhill. Vicky and I, possibly Dan and Gwen will be back at Trixie's Bar tomorrow night. We had a blast there Wednesday and Thursday night and are looking forward to going back tomorrow night. Hope to see you at the Fetish Ball tonight or at Trixie's Bar tomorrow night.
I thought I'd add a pic of us getting ready for Fetish Factory's Uniformity Event on Friday...
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We're off to Ft. Lauderdale, FL
Jon May 24th, 2006 8:28 am MDTVicky and I are off to Ft. Lauderdale later this afternoon for Fetish Factory's 11th Anniversary Fetish Weekend. The FF Event goes from Friday through Sunday. We'll be in Florida through Monday night, heading back to Boston on Tuesday.
Dan, Gwen and Black Widow will be arriving in Ft. Lauderdale on Friday. We only get together in the same place once or twice a year, so we're all looking forward to it.
Vicky and I plan on being at Trixie's Bar in Hollywood tomorrow night (Thursday). We also hope to get there with the whole gang on another night, we're just not sure which night that would be just yet... I'll update my Journal again if we can manage to find the time for all of us to get there together.
We're all hoping to see alot of the people we've corresponded with but haven't yet met at the FF Event or at Trixie's Bar... so... we hope to see you in Florida...
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Breakfast on Pluto
Jon May 20th, 2006 9:04 am MDTVicky and I watched Breakfast on Pluto last night and we can both Highly recommend it. Cillian Murphy put in a superb performance as Patrick "Kitten" Brady. It's a story of a Boy who was abandoned and left on a doorstep as an infant and who grows up in a small town in Ireland in the 1970's. He goes to London in search of his Mother and it leads "Kitten" on a journey of self discovery. This is one of the better movies we've seen in a long time.
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So many people to thank
Lisa Gayle Harris May 7th, 2006 10:52 am MDTI've kind of avoided posting to this journal, being such an old person and not into things like blogging, but it's gotten to the point that I have to do something. In the past couple of weeks I have gotten so many guestbook comments, all so complimentary, that I have to thank everyone. It's a little humbling and very heartwarming to find all those nice things people have left for me to read.I don't feel right clogging up everyone elses guestbook with thank yous but it's not right to never respond either so I guess this is one way to do that.Didi, Jayne, Sarah, Heather, Sandra, Lya, Allason, Judy, Amanda, Aleli, Wendy and Lilly Thank you so much. You're all so sweet. Jo-Ann, compliments from the Sassy Cat are special. Thank you Mandy Taylor, Brenda Miller, Bobbi, you know I love you girls. Thank you for being friends and supporting me.And to anyone I missed too. I'm a lucky girl to have so many friends here.[Comment on this post]
Just back from Los Angeles
Jon May 4th, 2006 6:28 pm MDTWell, we just got back from LA. Didn't really sample the nightlife, although we did stop in at The Lodge in North Hollywood... on... Karaoke Night. Also found out that it's been bought and in another month or so it will be just another Straight Bar...
Unfortunately, I had trouble connecting my Powerbook while in LA so I couldn't get my eMail... I'm pulling it down now and it's on message 4400 of 12,265... so bear with me, it will take me several days to go through and delete what's SPAM and answer the rest...
Here's a pic taken while we were driving along Mullholland Drive in the Hollywood Hills...
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New Computers for Everyone!
Dan™ A Saint James April 28th, 2006 12:01 pm MDTWell, everyone has seen the specs on Jon's new computer. What most of you don't know is that I just purchased a new computer as well. I just received a brand spanking new 20" iMac Intel Core Duo. I have to admit, I'm incredibly impressed.
The system has a 2 GHz Intel Core Duo CPU, 1 GB of RAM, 256 MB of VRAM and a 250 GB HD. it has built in wireless, build in Bluetooth and a built in iSight web cam. I haven't even manage to slow this thing down yet. Just for fun, I bough a copy of Doom 3 for the mac. It runs with all of the setting maxed out and even then, it only drops a few frames.
So why did I spend the cash? Well, sadly, its not because I'm rich. I recently broke my ankle and getting up and down three flights of stairs was killing me. Now I can have a system in the second floor bedroom and my stair climbing is kept to a minimum. Now if I could only talk Gwen into putting a coffee maker on this floor. :)
Oh well, if nothing else, I have a shiny new computer. It's not as cool as Jon's, but its still the best computer I've ever owned.
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We're off to L.A.
Jon April 28th, 2006 8:54 am MDTWell... I have business in L.A. so Vicky and I are heading out to L.A. this Sunday, April 30th until next Thursday, May 4th. I'll be really busy during the days but hope to have some free time in the evenings. It's Vicky's 1st visit to L.A. and I haven't been there in about 10 years.
If anyone has any suggestions on where to go in the evenings (we'll potentially have Sunday, Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday evenings free) could you post the info on where to go and on which night as a reply to this posting?
I'm not sure which of the nights we'll actually have free time, but it would be nice to know what's going on in the Tranny Scene in L.A. on those nights in case we do get a chance to go out...
Thanks in advance...
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My XPS 600 Arrived
Jon April 22nd, 2006 2:59 pm MDTI got it... my new Desktop PC... spent yesterday and a good chunk of today installing all the Software I use... Adobe Photoshop CS2, Ulead Video Studio 9, ACDSee 7, MySQL-Front, WS FTP Pro, Putty, Logitech Webcam Software, HP PSC 2210 All In One Software, etc. My new setup now consists of:
Dell XPS 600
Pentium Extreme Edition 955 w/ Dual Core (3.46GHz, 4MB Cache)
2GB Dual Channel DDR2 SDRAM at 667MHz
C Drive: 250GB Data Security RAID 1 (2 x 250GB SATA HDDs)
D Drive: 250GB
1.5TB External Firewire Drives
24 inch UltraSharp™ 2405FPW at 1920x1200 w/Card Reader
Samsung SyncMaster 930B Secondary Monitor at 1280x1024
256MB Nvidia GeForce 7800 GTX
Windows® XP Professional SP2
48x CD-RW Drive + 16x DVD+/-RW w/ double layer write capable
Sound Sound Blaster Audigy™ 2 ZS (D) Card w/Dolby 5.1, IEEE 1394 capability
The machine flies... thanks to the Pentium Extreme Edition 955. It's not only Dual Core but each Core is HyperThreaded, giving it the ability to run 4 processes simultaneously... and the 24" Monitor running at 1920x1200 is Phenomenal.
Here's a pic of my new setup...
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Limits
Jon April 14th, 2006 6:58 am MDTOk, so we started limiting the number of pages that people can "next" through in the People (Profile) Section of the Site to 10 Pages unless you have an Approved & Visible Profile of your own or unless you've purchased a Subscription, either URNA Plus or Full Access.
We feel that with all the Search Options we make available:
By Location
By Distance from Postal Code
By Age Range
By Group
By Category
By Orientation
By Gender
By Names Containing
and more...
anyone should be able to narrow their search down to 10 Pages (there are 20 Profiles per page, so that's 200 Profiles). And, any Visitor can just go in and Sort by Newest to Oldest or Last Updated and they'll see all the Profiles that were added or modified in the last week or so.
Nevertheless, as we expected, people who've never contributed to the costs of running URNA are starting to send eMails with things like:
"You People Suck"
"I'm going to find a site that's Free"
"We knew you'd sell out"
Personally, I don't think we Suck. I think we give an awful lot away for Free including the ability to contact Profile Holders without putting up a Profile of your own or without paying us anything.
As for finding a site that's Free. I can guarantee you, unless it's run by someone who's independently wealthy, you won't find another site with as many Genuine Profiles and Features as URNA for Free. The reality is that it cost a small fortune in bandwidth charges once a site gets to the point that URNA is at. We currently average about 8,000,000 (that's Eight Million) Hits per day. Even with that we still give you an Incredible Amount of Features for Free.
As for selling out. That just isn't true. Starting to put limits in place for people who have never contributed and who hit the site every day, "next'ing" through the pages, sucking down bandwidth, is, we think, a reasonable thing to do and something we probably should have done a long time ago.
Also, remember, the point of URNA is to build a Community of Transgendered People, Admirer's, Friends and Family. Someone who never puts up a Profile of their own and who never contributes in any way, really isn't helping to contribute to our Community here at URNA.
Anyway, opinions are welcome, whether you agree with what we've done and what we're doing or even if you don't.
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URNA Thoughts... the Future...
Jon April 6th, 2006 11:15 am MDTLots on my mind...
Lots on our minds...
Lots of Long Term Planning and decisions that have to be made...
So... we would really love to be able to get out of the Adult Content end of this business...
At present, Adult Content (ModelTS Full Access Subscriptions) generates 2/3's of URNA Revenue.
If we stop providing Adult Content... it will eliminate some of our costs:
- Bandwidth will go down somewhat (our single largest cost)
- No more model costs
- No Lingerie costs
- No more need to invest in Expensive Camera and related Equipment
It will also eliminate a ton of work...
- Photoshoots
- Putting together the Sets for the Photoshoots
- Image Editing
- Video Capture
- Video Editing
The problem is that it won't eliminate as much in Costs as it will in Income. It's the ModelTS Full Access Subscription Holders who've been subsidizing URNA since December of 1999.
How would we make up for the Shortfall if we eliminate ModelTS?
- Add even more Features for URNA Plus Members? Will our URNA Plus Subscriber Base grow?
- Do we put more limits on what Non-Profile Holders and Non-Subscription Holders can do on the site to help lower our bandwidth costs further?
- It will enable us to use Paypal for Purchasing URNA Plus Subscriptions... will this help grow the URNA Plus Subscriber base?
- It will allow us to Join Partner Programs like Google Adsense and others that prohibit participation for Sites that have Adult Content. Will this additional revenue amount to anything?
- Will eliminating Adult Content give us more "Respectability" within the TG Community? If so, will this translate into more Advertisers and more Profile Holders or do people really not care that we have an Adult Content Section?
- Will people that enjoy our Adult Content and have helped subsidize the cost of running URNA by purchasing Adult Content Subscriptions abandon us altogether?
Will eliminating the Adult Content Subscriptions be the downfall of URNA and cause us to be unable to afford to keep it going or will it help and actually allow us to grow URNA further and encourage more people to contribute to the costs of running URNA?
As I began this Posting...
Lots on my mind...
Lots on our minds...
Lots of Long Term Planning and Decisions that have to be made...
Input, Thoughts, Ideas and Opinions appreciated...
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Inappropriate Behavior
Jon April 5th, 2006 9:33 am MDTI don't understand people that hit on people that they know are in a long term relationship. People that see a Profile that states... "I'm in a committed relationship. I am not interested in being hit on"... and yet they proceed to hit on the person.
When someone then sends an eMail or IM's the Profile Holder mentioned above and asks... are you still in a relationship... receives the answer - yes... and then proceeds with things like:
Can we meet? I'm discreet, no one will know...
or... I can get a room near you if you can sneak out...
or... I'm in Vegas, I can fly you here and pay for the room, just say you're going to visit a friend...
or... I love you so much, I'd do anything for you...
or... I need you so bad that I'll do anything to be with you...
or... I'm very wealthy, I can give you anything you want...
or... use your imaginations... any of thousands or sexually explicit suggestions could go here
What kind of person does this?
How would they react if it were their partner being hit on like this?
If it's someone they've initiated the conversation with via an URNA Profile and the URNA Profile states they're not interested in being hit on should we ban people that do this if we receive a complaint with a transcript of the behavior?
Of the one's that are married or in relationships of their own, are they too stupid to realize that their conversations could be forwarded to their partners with just a little bit of research?
Anyway, it's something that's been on my mind... Vicky gets so much of this crap that it's disgusting... and if anyone who's contacted her like this and is reading this, yes, she does show it to me.
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Unbelievable
Jon March 22nd, 2006 7:46 am MSTThis has nothing to do with the Transgendered Community other than very indirectly. It's an example of unbelievable intolerance and the attempt to force others to conform.
Afghanistan - Death penalty for apostasy
Here's a short summary from the beginning of the article...
"An Afghan man facing a possible death penalty for converting from Islam to Christianity may be mentally unfit to stand trial, a state prosecutor has said.
Abdul Rahman has been charged with rejecting Islam, a crime under Afghanistan's Islamic laws. His trial started last week and he confessed to becoming a Christian 16 years ago. If convicted, he could be executed."
Can you believe this shit. It's the 21st Century. American Soldiers fought and died to free Afghanistan from the Taliban and we allow them to even consider laws like this? I can't believe that Afghanistan, after the overthrow of the Taliban and with US Troops still on it's soil to prop up it's government, is even permitted to have a Death Penalty for Apostasy. What is this bullshit?
People always say you have to respect other people's culture. Well, I totally disagree with that sentiment. Other peoples cultures have to earn your respect and a culture that puts up with this crap is one that's not worthy of respect by anyone.
Sorry, I read this and had to rant it pissed me off so much.
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