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Austin here we come
Anna and Racheal November 1st, 2008 6:32 pm MDTWow my new job I took back in September even though I do not get paid very well has an office in Austin Texas. Now at long last Racheal and I get to move to the place we want to live. This past weekend I went to a national conference and talked with the Austin crew. I am excited to be able in a couple months to move, knowing that we have a job when I get thier. Then all we have to do is find Racheal something work wise. I have hopes that I can go to college but will need to enter the community college to take a few courses first. Wish us luck!![1 comment]
Spare a Thought for the Trans Growing Up Experience
Tara A Marion October 31st, 2008 9:58 am MDTAs a lot of people in my audience will be aware of, growing up transgendered is really not an easy thing to do. Sadness, regrets and even danger lies at many points in the journey. For some, the despair starts from the beginning, as a three or four year old kid who cannot play with the toys they want or dress in the clothes they want to. This theme continues throughout life, and missed experiences often accumulate into what some people call an 'age dysphoria' that extends well into adulthood.Transgender kids are often lonely and lost. They are thus more vulnerable to everything from toxic substance abuse to indecent adults. Even in the age of the internet, a young trans teen would feel quite lonely, as all the resources are made for people older than them, and things like hormones, full-time and the like are often only imaginable for those stuck with unsupportive parents. This extra burden during the volatile phase of growing up gives transgendered individuals an unfair start in life. I actually think that this is one of the biggest problems we need to address in our community. Education, providing awareness through the media, as well as positive, accessible online resources are all a great start. As for those who have already had a bad start, help for them to get back on track is vital.Here, may I make a diversion and specifically criticise the often too highly visible oversexualised aspects of the trans (as well as other queer) community. There are just too many sexually explicit type things and places in the trans community. Where are the underage people going to get help then (without being exposed to inappropriate phenomenon - I am a strong champion for this)? Isn't it about solving a crisis that comes with a natural medical phenomenon clashing with the wider society's expectations and discrimination?Then comes the actual coming out and transitioning. In conservative settings this can be a very traumatising experience - as if all the trauma before was not enough. However, any newcomer to the 'seriously transitioning' section of the trans community will encounter a lot of 'trans politics' - including the infamous 'HBS' crowd and the 'self identified Autogynephilics' (I wonder how any person can do that to themselves). As if things weren't hard enough, why can't we come together as a community? Perhaps it is because each of us bring with us the traumas that we had on our long, difficult journies in life.All this may be changing though - there is now a new attention on helping out trans kids early. Story after story of success has proven this to be the best solution available. I would certainly have had a better life if this had been an easily accessible option in the 1990s.As for those of us who have already been through the hard way - let's at least make lemonade out of the lemons. Let our experiences guide us to worthwhile causes in life. For example, in my journey I found that young queer people had too little support in society. I want to change that. Raising awareness of the main issues involved is a worthwhile first step. Another thing is that a lot of online trans material (and queer material in general) was either overly technical (focusing on the technical aspects of transition) and/or overly sexual. I encountered some kind of a lost of innocence in trying to get answers to my problems, even though I tried to avoid that 'dirty stuff'. This was entirely unncessary - as those questions could be dealt with in a much more healthy, nonsexualised way. (By the way, a lot of 'teen audience' mags out there do the same unfortunately - I am very against developing minds being exposed to anything more than proper, medically recognised sex-ed, which unfortunately they get too little of). I want to change that too.[Comment on this post]
Problem: Identity Not Recognised
Tara A Marion October 29th, 2008 7:55 am MDTSociety does not always agree with our self-identity. This is a fact of life as a trans person. It is also a sad one.This is actually a form of bullying, even though the perpetrator may not know that they are even doing any harm. However, we must not be brought down by it. Nor should we wait till society is ready before living our happy lives. Instead, we must go out and create the best possible destiny for ourselves. Instead of feeling like we are at the bottom of society, maybe we should view our particular position as a place where we can start to work to improve things for everybody through our special experiences, even if they are painful ones.By creating our own destiny and showing the world who we really are, we help create the future of our community. We need to live to the fullest and raise our voice about what we face and our hopes and dreams. We need to use what we have to help the wider world, and show them that we are special and valuable. This is a life worth living, and a cause worth fighting for.[Comment on this post]
Problem: Identity Not Recognised
Tara A Marion October 29th, 2008 7:55 am MDTSociety does not always agree with our self-identity. This is a fact of life as a trans person. It is also a sad one.This is actually a form of bullying, even though the perpetrator may not know that they are even doing any harm. However, we must not be brought down by it. Nor should we wait till society is ready before living our happy lives. Instead, we must go out and create the best possible destiny for ourselves. Instead of feeling like we are at the bottom of society, maybe we should view our particular position as a place where we can start to work to improve things for everybody through our special experiences, even if they are painful ones.By creating our own destiny and showing the world who we really are, we help create the future of our community. We need to live to the fullest and raise our voice about what we face and our hopes and dreams. We need to use what we have to help the wider world, and show them that we are special and valuable. This is a life worth living, and a cause worth fighting for.[Comment on this post]
True essence of beauty...is from within ;-)
Angel Cum 4u October 13th, 2008 11:25 am MDTThe true essence of beauty is not just seen from the physical appearance; but the true essence of beauty is seen from within...which i mean is, Look to your heart not to your eyes, because the heart see the finest points of beauty which eyes cannot. If you look to your heart not to your eyes, doors will be opened, spirits will be move and life will be change forever!!![Comment on this post]
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Sherryutah October 4th, 2008 3:20 pm MDThttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K-DPV-vswIM[1 comment]
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Sherryutah October 4th, 2008 3:18 pm MDThttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K-DPV-vswIM[Comment on this post]
What I wrote My Congressman regarding the US Economy
Jon October 1st, 2008 2:11 pm MDTI've been so disgusted listening to the Talking Heads spew bullshit on what needs to be done to get the Economy going again that I decided to write My Congressman. I encourage everyone to do the same, whether your view is in line with mine or diametrically opposed to it. Here's what I wrote My Congressman.
I'm writing to ask you 2 things and also to express my opinion.
1. Please Vote NO on any Tax Payer funded Bailout, of any kind, for Banks and Financial Institutions. As a Tax Payer, I do not want to see my Hard Earned Tax Dollars going to help out Companies or Institutions that have made irresponsible decisions. Large Firms should be treated no differently than Small Firms. If they can't stay afloat on their own, they should be allowed to go under.
2. Do NOT use my Hard Earned Tax Dollars to Subsidize the Mortgages of others. If a person was irresponsible enough to take out a Mortgage larger than they could afford then they should be foreclosed on. People must be held responsible for their actions. It would be grossly unfair to use My Hard Earned Tax Dollars to help pay off someone else's Mortgage. I have a hard enough time paying My Mortgage and My Monthly Bills without the Added Burden of Subsidizing someone else. Taxes are not levied by our Government to Redistribute wealth and it Offends me that it's even being considered.
My opinion on what should happen going forward...
1. Banks should require Substantial Down Payments before rewarding a Mortgage.
2. Banks should Verify Employment and Yearly Income before rewarding a Mortgage.
A comment on 1 and 2 above... This is what Banks always did until Our Government, towards the end of the 1990's, started pushing Banks to loosen their requirements so that more people could own homes. Well, guess what, not everyone can afford to own a home. I think that's pretty clear now and should have been obvious from the beginning.
3. Financial Institutions must be held responsible for the types of Financial Instruments they buy and sell. If they bundle up Worthless Sub Prime Mortgages into Financial Instruments and then can't sell them, well, that's life, they should be stuck with them. If it causes their Collapse, so be it.
To sum it up, Corporations AND Individuals must be held accountable for their actions. Using My and other people's Hard Earned Tax Dollars to Redistribute the Wealth to help the Rich OR the Poor, goes against everything this country stands for and the thought of it makes me sick to my stomach.
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becoming
Doris September 26th, 2008 11:16 am MDTI want to be more andmore. I can't be enough. I want help![Comment on this post]
K Salon
Angel Cum 4u September 23rd, 2008 10:56 am MDThttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFUtrrd9bTE[Comment on this post]
Erowid: Documenting the Complex Relationship between Humans and Psychoactives
Jon September 12th, 2008 1:37 pm MDTJust a neat little site that I ran across...
http://www.erowid.org
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Be real, stop the denial and hiding.
vannesa girl queensbury, NY September 11th, 2008 4:09 pm MDTI'm trying to figure out why people put themselves on these websights professng to want to meet people and then they run back into the closet. It was hard for me the first time out but now I love it. I guess it is the initial fear but once you get through it it actually frees you. I've never been so happy since I've come out. About meeting. I give my phone number to all that want it. I won't meet anyone without talking with them first. If someone will not give or exchange numbers with you then it means they are unavailable. They are either immature wannabees or married and cheating. I don't want anyone contacting me or requesting an add if they will not exchnage phone numbers or live 3000 miles away. Grow up and come out from behind your computers. Life isn't in there it's out here in the world.[Comment on this post]
PLEASE Read, Ladies and Pass it on
Frank Disalle September 10th, 2008 8:46 am MDTTransgender Murder, Safety and Dating I really hate saying this, but it needs to be said...There are many young transgender women who are not careful about dating guys. They think that because they are young, pretty and passable they are free to date as they wish. The truth of the matter is, we have to be concerned with our safety the same as any other woman and even more. Even genetic women have to be concerned with being raped, assaulted and becoming victims of domestic violence. As a transgender woman things can become even more riskier, especially if we are pre or non-op. If we are found out men can get very upset, angry and often very violent. No man likes being lied to, but even worse the "thought" they have had sex with a person of the "same sex" and committed a "homosexual act" can drive them to become very angry and often resulting in brutal assault and even murder. Such is the case in the murder of Angie Zapata. All the hate crimes legislation in the world will do little to help us in this type of situation. I feel that many transgender murders could be prevented if only they had been upfront about their gender and screened their dates a little bit better. Does this justify these gruesome murders, positively not, but it is a very sad reality that may very well have been prevented with a bit more caution and honesty.As a transexual woman I get many requests for dates. Many of these hits are online and through social networking sites such as myspace and facebook. Even though my profiles are as transgender oriented, I get many hits from very straight men. My very first reply to any person who hits on me is "I am a male to female transexual woman and give a brief description of myself. This way no one can say I lied to them or deceived them about my gender. Usually the response back is a quick no thank you or no response at all.As much as we all like to go "stealth", I feel it is very important to be upfront about our transgender status. We need to be just as cautious as any other genetic woman and even more. Lastly, we need to screen our dates and know who we are dating. from TGLynn's Place http://tglynnsplace.blogspot.com/2008/07/transgender-murder-safety-and-dating.html[Comment on this post]
together
Anna and Racheal September 8th, 2008 7:30 am MDTwow it is hard to believe that almost one year ago Racheal made the heart felt decision to come into my office for that fateful massage. All I had to do was look into those beautiful Hazel blue eyes and we new we both new! how awesome is that.. I truely believe that some divine providence brought us together that Fate was working seriously overtime on this one. This has been one of the hardest years of my life I can't speak for her but I can say this I have never been happier or more in love and every moment of this past year good and bad has been worth seeing our love blossom and grow. I love you baby with all my heart and spirit! Anna[Comment on this post]
Unraveling Michelle Screening
Jenna Elizabeth Taylor September 7th, 2008 10:47 pm MDTLocal film maker Michelle Farrell will be screening her homegrown documentary at the Local film maker Michelle Farrell will be screening her homegrown documentary at theNew York International Independent Film and Video Festival OPENING NIGHT THURSDAY SEPTEMBER 18th - Unraveling Michelle Screening Saturday 4pm. The OPENING NIGHT PARTY and art/film market at MANSION ON THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 18TH brings participating filmmakers, producers and artists together. Designed as an "open-air" market, the whole spectrum of the film, art and entertainment industry will be invited to attend thus creating a valuable opportunity for NYIIFVF and NYIAF participants to promote their projects and network with relevant industry professionals. Details: MANSION 530 W. 28TH STREET BETWEEN 10TH AND 11TH AVENUE 6PM-MIDNIGHT, Strict dress code: NO T-SHIRTS, JERSEYS, SWEATS, SNEAKERS AND BASEBALL HATS 21 and over only. No Exceptions http://www.nyfilmvideo.com/2008/ny-fall-2008/presrelease/opening-night.htm AFTER-PARTIES: Each night the festival will host after-parties at some of the best venues in New York. A list of our after-parties will be posted on www.nyfilmvideo.com and will also be listed in the program. We are doing our very best to get everyone in for free but venues marked with *** in the program schedule do have a reputation for being very trendy and upscale. We are also guests of the club. You must dress appropriately. NO T-SHIRTS, SNEAKERS, JERSEYS, BASEBALL HATS, BAGGY JEANS, SWEATS, ETC. ALL AFTER-PARTIES ARE FOR 21 AND OVER ONLY. NO EXCEPTIONS. PLEASE KEEP YOUR VIP PASS ON YOU AT ALL TIMES AT THE AFTER-PARTIES. Please email Annalisa San Juan at annalisa@itndistribution.com if you have any questions regarding the after-parties. REMEMBER, for 12 dollars(advance ticket) you get a movie and a party. Unraveling Michelle will be screened on Saturday 9/20 at 4pm. I hope that you can come up to support our documentary.[Comment on this post]
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Thamra Leslie Crawford September 2nd, 2008 12:23 pm MDTCome to SCC http://sccatl.org/[Comment on this post]
Diamond TransGender Resources Web Site
Diamond TG Resources August 30th, 2008 3:18 am MDTDiamondTGR is getting a make over. The new site will be prettier and easier to navigate. I will post more information here when the new site is up and running, in the mean time, be sure to keep checking DiamondTGR as more information is still being added. Kristi[Comment on this post]
public
Anna and Racheal August 29th, 2008 9:15 pm MDTMan you could almost write a country song on this one. Last Friday 8-22-08 Racheal and i had to put my best friend down my son Jax ok so he is a dog but to me he was like a child. I remember going to the barn and sitting on the floor and jax who was barely able to keep his eyes open waddled over to me and layed his little head in my lap. Well nearly 9 and 3/4 years later I found myself on the floor of the vets office holding Jax head in my lap as the vet gave him the shot to help him sleep. Jax just laid thier and looked at me eyes half open just as I remembered him doing 9 3/4 quarter years ealier. My buddy and best friend closed his eyes for the last time Then 8-29-08 I went back into court expecting the judge to throw my ass in jail at the request of my soon to be ex-wife attorney request for contempt of court particularly failure to pay the skanky wrinkly old bitch a $1,000 dollar figure that the judge seem to think she was intitled to. Anna was so scared I was afraid of being in jail and being seperated from Racheal. I fired my attorney two minutes prior to the court hearing do to his negligence and uncaring attitude towards doing his job. plus the ass thinks I can just pay him for his imcompetence. Every time I have been in court all I do is answer stupid questions from her stupid attorney and my attorney does nothing![Comment on this post]
Thoughts on Religion
Kimberly Elise August 21st, 2008 5:50 am MDTJust a note so there is no misunderstanding...if you're religious, I'm glad your religion works for you. But your religion is a private matter, so please don't try to convert me. I am quite happy the way I am. If anything changes, I'll call you. What are my beliefs? I'm basically an agnostic. Additionally, I'm interested in Buddhism and Hinduism, and have read some of the writings of J. Krishnamurti. I know this sounds kind of nebulous, but the fact is no human being can say for sure where we all came from and why our universe exists. As the author Geoffrey Wolfe once wrote, "We really don't know who we are, or where we have come from, or what we have done, or why." If you have read this far, log onto parabola.org. It's a great website (and magazine) which represents all faiths.
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True Colors
Angel Cum 4u August 10th, 2008 10:12 am MDThttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IilVx_gr69c&NR=1[Comment on this post]