Kimberly Elise
"exercising daily to keep fit."
Journal Entries for Kimberly Elise
Thoughts on Religion
August 21st, 2008 5:50 am MDT
Just a note so there is no misunderstanding...if you're religious, I'm glad your religion works for you. But your religion is a private matter, so please don't try to convert me. I am quite happy the way I am. If anything changes, I'll call you. What are my beliefs? I'm basically an agnostic. Additionally, I'm interested in Buddhism and Hinduism, and have read some of the writings of J. Krishnamurti. I know this sounds kind of nebulous, but the fact is no human being can say for sure where we all came from and why our universe exists. As the author Geoffrey Wolfe once wrote, "We really don't know who we are, or where we have come from, or what we have done, or why." If you have read this far, log onto parabola.org. It's a great website (and magazine) which represents all faiths.
Quote
March 29th, 2008 6:39 am MDT
"To be ignorant of what occurred before you were born is to remain always a child."- Cicero
More About Passing
February 12th, 2008 6:21 am MST
Just so you know, I am not a self appointed expert about passing as a woman in public. I still have much work to do in this area, and there are others who are clearly ahead of me in this endeavor. Also, each person's journey and situation is different. Nevertheless, I would consider myself to be an "intermediate", at least, on the subject of passing, having been out something like 300 times in the past several years. So for today, my main point has to do with being low key and subtle. A moderate amount of eye makeup and a not too flashy lipstick is best. You can do a bit more if it's dusk or after dark, but moderation is always a good rule. Likewise, if you want to pass, wearing cropped blue jeans (mid calf length, for example) and a zip up hoodie sweatshirt is a good formula. A bright dress and three and a half inch heels will attract way too much attention in most circumstances, so being subtle and low key is much better. If the weather is warm, a women's pink t shirt would go nicely with the cropped blue jeans. Thongs or a low heeled sandal complete this understated look. Remember to think more like a woman when you are choosing what to wear, instead of thinking like a man. If you're going to a drag party, that's different and maybe you can pull out all the stops. But if you're going to the mall at 5 p.m., remember: Blue jeans, a women's sweatshirt or t shirt, and flip flops is the best formula. Just my opinion. :-)
About Passing
January 24th, 2008 5:47 am MST
Have you ever wondered why many t girls can't pass as genetic females? I am going to comment on two aspects of passing here, and I think I am qualified to comment because I have been educated in two good schools: The School of Hard Knocks and The School of Trial and Error. Here goes (this will not be extremely wordy). Two critical aspects of passing are to get rid of any beard shadow you might have, and to choose the appropriate clothing for the time of day and place you will be going out to. Aside from at the office or at church on Sunday morning, how many genetic females wear dresses at any given time? Maybe two percent, five percent at the most. My advice is don't wear a dress unless you're going to a party or to church! So if you're going out and you want to pass, my advice is to wear what most GGs wear when they go out: denim jeans, denim shorts, a denim skirt, etc. paired with a blouse. I am not saying you should wear them every single time, but most of the time you should. Jeans and a simple women's t shirt (if your arms are not too big) is a good combo to pass. Add some sandals or flip flops if the weather is mild. The second aspect of passing I will comment on here is you absolutely must get rid of any trace of beard shadow you have. You will have to experiment with shaving techniques, foundation, cover stick, etc. to find the right combination. This seems like an obvious point, but many t girls are not very good at doing this. Please work diligently over time until you can make your skin "shadow free" with the right techniques. Try different products and different ways of getting your look together to see what works best. Don't just do something that works halfway decently and then rest on your laurels. Keep experimenting until you achieve perfection or near perfection. Of course, if you have no facial hair at all, that certainly makes it easier. Hope these two bits of advice help. Most t girls overdress and go out with at least some beard shadow evident, and there is no way they can pass, especially in the daytime. I know I am not perfect on these things either--that's why my advice is especially relevant. I've been there too. I used to get laughed at, and now they're not laughing anymore.
Best wishes,
Kim
Under the Boardwalk, Down by the Sea
September 11th, 2007 4:11 am MDT
This past Friday I did a photo session and it included both outdoor photos of me at La Jolla Beach, California, as well as some office lady photos of me that were done immediately after the beach trip. I will be posting a couple of the new pictures to my URNOTALONE profile, and you can view all the new photos at flickr.com/kimberlyvirtue. Oh, and I almost forgot...just click where it says WEBSITE on my URNOTALONE profile, and that will take you directly to my flickr photo albums. There is one album there called La Jolla Beach, with a couple of dozen photos. Oh, and one other thing to consider....the sun is not an older girl's best friend, and I am not as young as I used to be. Wish I could look like I'm forever 21, but alas, I am nearly 47! :-)
Best wishes and thanks for your support! Kim
Late June and Early July Quotes
June 26th, 2007 5:25 am MDT
- Cold hearted orb that rules the night, removes the colors from our sight. Red is gray, and yellow white. And we decide which is right, and which is an illusion. Brave Helios, wake up your steeds. Bring the warmth the countryside needs. - From 'Late Lament', by The Moody Blues, circa 1967.
- For every malady under the sun, there is a remedy or there is none. If there be one, try to find it. If there be none, never mind it. - Anonymous
- Be who you are and drive what you will, because those who mind, don't matter and those who matter, don't mind. - Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)
- The moving finger writes, and having writ, moves on. Nor all your piety nor wit, shall lure it back to cancel half a line, nor all your tears wash out a word of it. - Omar Khayyam, circa 13th Century A.D.
- Cooperate with the inevitable. - Anonymous
- The unleashed power of the atom has changed everything save our own ways of thinking, and we thus drift toward unparalleled catastrophe. - Albert Einstein
- Time hangs heavy for the bored, eludes the busy, flies by for the young, and runs out for the aged. What is time? Is it a friend, or an enemy? We crave it, we curse it, we kill it. To know it at all, to know its potential, perhaps we should view it through a filter called memories. - Erma Bombeck, November 1971
- Literary and empirical studies amply confirm what every mature adult discovers: Happiness and well-being come from overcoming or outgrowing many of our desires more than from satisfying them. - Sagoff, 1986
- Excellence is a habit. -Anonymous
- Success is attained through singleness of purpose. - Vince Lombardi
Don't You Wish Your Girlfriend Dressed Like Me?
June 24th, 2007 6:25 am MDT
If you have not already checked out this Japanese "office lady" website, pls do so: ol-fanclub.com. I think you'll like it! The office lady look is one I aspire to, in part at least. Sometimes I enjoy a more casual look such as that found in the J. Crew or J Jill catalogs, but on many occasions I put on my office lady attire and go out. I am sure you know the look--perhaps a white blouse, blue or black rayon vest, knee length skirt, sheer nylons, and black pumps. Yummy--there's nothing better, whether you are doing the admiring or the wearing! Sometimes I wish I could spend the rest of my life dressed as an office lady, 24/7. Guys, don't you wish your girlfriend dressed like me? :-) The next time I do a photo set, the theme will be "Office Lady Kim", or something along those lines.
Love, Kimberly
Comment From a Guy
June 9th, 2007 6:52 am MDT
One guy emailed me a few months back and he said "Jesus, you are gorgeous. Are you sure you are not a GG?" I emailed him back and said "I am pretty sure I am not a GG. At least the last time I checked, I am not". Maybe I should have added that my name is Kimberly, not Jesus. Hah hah.
Hey, I'm not kidding--he really did email that to me. Have a great day, everyone!
New Photos Posted, March 23, 2007
March 24th, 2007 6:26 am MDT
I had a professional makeover and outdoor photo session on March 23 and you can view them in my Yahoo photo album (click website on my profile). Look at the folder named 2007-03-23. Best wishes and appreciation to everyone on this site for your support!
December Quotes from Kim
December 19th, 2006 5:23 am MST
- "I was lost in emotion and unable to see, that the lies in your lovesongs made a fool of me...." - From the song Fantasy Love Affair, by Peter Brown (circa 1980)
- He was too good for this earth. It is hard, hard to have him die. - Abraham Lincoln, upon the death of his 12 year old son Willie in 1862
- In our appetite for gossip, we tend to gobble down everything before us, only to find, too late, that it is our ideals we have consumed, and we have not been enlarged by the feasts but only diminished. -- Pico Iyer in Time
- If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need. -- Cicero
- When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people. -- Abraham J. Heschel
- Greatness is not in where we stand; but, in what direction we are moving. We must sail sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it--but sail we must and not drift, nor lie at anchor. -- Supreme Court Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
New Photos!
October 17th, 2006 4:04 am MDT
I posted a number of new photos today, all of which were taken on Friday, October 13. Maybe that was my lucky day, because some of the photos turned out well. They include a black lacy body stocking that I modeled, plus some other pictures with a white spandex top and black skirt combination. There are also two photos, I think, with a white three quarter length sleeve blouse, and the black skirt. Let me know what you think about the photos! Thanks to my many friends from URNOTALONE. This is without a doubt the best TG website in existence.
You can see some of the new photos on my main profile. The remainder are in my Yahoo photo album. Just click on website at the top of my profile, and then go to the album labeled 2006-10-13.
:-)
Kimberly
Out and About
May 8th, 2006 4:29 am MDT
I have been out and about in public as Kimberly something like 200+ times--my best guess. Each time I try to have fun and each time I try to learn something to improve myself. A number of times I have gone shopping at Marshall's or Target in the evening, when it is rather crowded. Those are the most challenging excursions. My voice is not passable, in my estimation, but visually I can pass as a woman most of the time, I think. Usually I browse for things like jeans, shoes and cosmetics when I am at Target, and I typically don't get a second look from other customers or staff. I love to try on shoes! But there have been a few times when, for example, a younger GG has given me an extended glance. That's when I think about my look, and realize that perhaps I used a little bit too much makeup that night, or was wearing a skirt when I would have been more passable wearing blue jeans and tennis shoes, or just for a second had a relapse into more masculine mannerisms. In any case, I see myself as a work in process always, getting (hopefully) a bit better as time goes. It all seems so natural and normal when I am out as Kimberly. To me I am just a woman going about her business. It is such a delight.
More of Kim's Favorite Quotes
April 22nd, 2006 4:53 am MDT
Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us, or we find it not. -Ralph Waldo Emerson, 1803-1882
I am that which was, and is, and will ever be. And no mortal has yet lifted the veil which covers me. -Isis, Goddess of Life
Seek truth not with your heart alone, for your heart cannot think. And not with your mind alone, for your mind can only find lifeless truths. But in union of heart and mind, you will find peace of soul. -St Augustine
Turning and turning in the widening gyre, the falcon cannot hear the falconer. Things fall apart; the center cannot hold; mere anarchy is loosed upon the world. The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere, the ceremony of innocence is drowned. -William Butler Yeats, 1865-1939
Be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit troubles. -Thomas Jefferson, 1743-1826
History with its flickering lamp stumbles along the trail of the past, trying to reconstruct its scenes, to revive its echoes, and kindle with pale gleams the passion of former days. -Winston Churchill, November 12, 1940
Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the alternatives. -Winston Churchill
If You're Just Getting Started, or Are Well Along
March 10th, 2006 4:43 am MST
If you are a beginning CD/TV, you might be bewildered by all of the choices and wondering how you should start on your TG journey. What has been most helpful to me are Kalina Isato's books. Check out the website transvamp.com, and order one or more of her books. You will like what you see! If you diligently apply the principles and practices she teaches, I am confident you will succeed in your TG endeavors, whatever direction you want your life to go. She has excellent references for more advanced T Girls too.
Other Hobbies and Interests
March 7th, 2006 7:18 am MST
Some other hobbies and interests:
Dreaming of my previous life, when I was a beautiful Korean genetic female.
Fantasizing about spending the rest of my life dressed as an Asiana Airlines flight attendant in a skirt suit.
Rehearsing my acceptance speech, if by some act of God I should ever win the URNOTALONE Member of the Month competition.
Giving myself manicures and pedicures at home, to save the $$ that I otherwise would have spent on these things at the beauty salon.
Wishing I could live 24/7 as a woman, making my living by modeling and being a saleswoman at the MAC cosmetics counter.
Making unattractive genetic females jealous because they know that I look better than they do.
Dreaming about making a nice living as a full-time pantyhose model. Etc., etc.
Kim's Favorite Quotes & Excerpts
March 3rd, 2006 5:58 am MST
"I can call spirits from the vasty deep." -Shakespeare, Henry IV.
"What though the radiance that was once so bright, be now forever taken from our sight. Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower, we will grieve not, rather find, strength in what remains behind." -William Wordsworth, 1802.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled." -Plutarch, Priest of the Delphic Oracle, Ancient Greece.
"It's OK to care, to smile, to remember." -Advertisement for the JFK Presidential Library in Boston.
"For the joy of knowing what may not be known, we take the golden road to Samarkand." -James Elroy Flecker
Igitur qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum: If you wish for peace, prepare for war.
Feedback I've Received in Recent Months
February 24th, 2006 5:00 am MST
Just thought I would share some feedback that I have received over the months, regarding my profile.
Here is just a sampling, and I hope you enjoy reading them:
- "You look like you have a big head." ANSWER: Hmmmm.....You might be right, but I am not sure there is that much I can do about it, other than wear a hairstyle and clothing that takes attention away from that feature. I do need constructive criticism too though, not just compliments. Otherwise I will remain static. So I thank this person for being forward enough to say that.
- "Jesus, you are gorgeous. Are you sure you're not a GG?" ANSWER: I am pretty sure I am not a GG, or at least the last time I checked, I am not.
- "You have beautiful legs." ANSWER: Thank you! For some reason, God and my parents endowed me with very feminine looking legs. Shaving them several times per week certainly helps, and I don't buy cheap pantyhose--I buy the kind that cost $6 per pair. So I guess that helps too. I love the look and feel of smooth legs with sheer hosiery.
- I was in a restaurant on two different occasions, and overheard a couple of GGs making comments. One in a nearby booth said to her husband about me: "He looks good." Another time a GG whispered to another GG who was with her "He doesn't look that bad." Gosh, I think maybe I was not quite passable those two times! I now use Joe Blasco foundation, which I buy from glamourboutique.com--so I seldom get "read" anymore, at least from a visual standpoint.
- "You should smile more in your pictures." ANSWER: OK, I will work on that the next time I do a photo session.
- "You look like Sandra Bullock." ANSWER: Keep on saying things like that, you're doing great! :-) I wish I could be her, not just look like her. But if looking like her is the next best thing, I will take it.
- One guy emailed me and he said "I am going to f*** you in the ass." ANSWER: No you're not, because no one is going to get anywhere near me by making comments like that. He wouldn't have said that to a GG, so I don't understand why he said it to me. Such is life though.
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