Kimberly S Virtue
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More About Passing
February 12th, 2008 6:21 am MST
Just so you know, I am not a self appointed expert about passing as a woman in public. I still have much work to do in this area, and there are others who are clearly ahead of me in this endeavor. Also, each person's journey and situation is different. Nevertheless, I would consider myself to be an "intermediate", at least, on the subject of passing, having been out something like 300 times in the past several years. So for today, my main point has to do with being low key and subtle. A moderate amount of eye makeup and a not too flashy lipstick is best. You can do a bit more if it's dusk or after dark, but moderation is always a good rule. Likewise, if you want to pass, wearing cropped blue jeans (mid calf length, for example) and a zip up hoodie sweatshirt is a good formula. A bright dress and three and a half inch heels will attract way too much attention in most circumstances, so being subtle and low key is much better. If the weather is warm, a women's pink t shirt would go nicely with the cropped blue jeans. Thongs or a low heeled sandal complete this understated look. Remember to think more like a woman when you are choosing what to wear, instead of thinking like a man. If you're going to a drag party, that's different and maybe you can pull out all the stops. But if you're going to the mall at 5 p.m., remember: Blue jeans, a women's sweatshirt or t shirt, and flip flops is the best formula. Just my opinion. :-)
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Hi Kim,
This post echoes the theme of your previous one...and my response echoes my previous one as well. Speaking as the GUY who'd like to be WITH you while you're out and about, I would prefer it if you DIDN'T always look 'exactly like every other girl in the place'......ALL the time. Understated is fine and a GREAT concept...and I agree there are some times/places (like going to the park to watch the fireworks on the 4th of July...or out for a ride in the old convertible) where the jeans/shirt/hoodie are perfectly fine. BUT...darn it - I LIKE seeing girls in denim skirts or sundresses and rope-sole wedgies that show off your toes painted bright colors.
I make the same point with GG friends as well - "can't you be more 'feminine' at least sometimes?" ;) God knows I love a cute butt in tight jeans as much as the next fella...but when you get right down to the nub - men want their girls (of whatever 'gender') to LOOK LIKE GIRLS. And believe me, the guy who DOES have a girl who dresses more feminine gets PLENTY of "looks" - from other men WISHING their date was dressed more like his.
Just my .02 - Bob