URNotAlone

My First Entry!

February 28th, 2007 10:32 am MST

Well hi everyone, This is my first Urnotalone journal entry. I guess that I should have written something before, but I just never thought that what I had to say was either original or of any real interest. However there is something I wanted to say, and it's about friendship. About how we treat others. I have this good friend. Someone who means a great deal to me. She is bright, beautiful, caring. All the things you could wish for in a friend, but she's hurting. Why? Because someone that she thought was a friend has been mistreating her. Now I realise that Urnotalone caters for a massively wide range of people. Transgdenered, transsexual, non transgendered. You know something? That's okay! Take me for example. I describe myself as a pre op transsexual. For me it isn't about a sexual thrill, or about a fetish. It's about my true self. About who Iam, and whether there is a way for me to live in the world as I feel I should. For many others this isn't the case. They have no desire for surgery or hormones. For them they do it for fun, or for a sexual thrill, or whatever.Now I can disagree with their choices, or their reasoning or their activities, but one thing I feel that I should definately not do is to belittle them in front of others. To cause others to mock or deride them. That just isn't nice is it? And it's worse when the person doing that is suppossed to be your friend.To me a friend is someone who cares for you, who wants what's best for you, who defends and looks after you. Well to those who are doing this to my friend I say, "Why do you do this? Is irt because of jealousy, or your own insecurities, or because you are just not nice people?" We cannot force people to do the thigns we want them to, even if we think that they are making a mistake. We can only offer our advice, our guidance and our love. Ultimately that person has to make the choice for themselves.I think this people are causing hurt and pain. I don't know if it is deliberate or not, but the fact is that they are causing. Please think about what you say, and how you say it, because you might be hurting someone you really care about.To my friend I say; I love. I care for you, and so do others. I hope that this has not caused offence to anyone, but my friend is hurting, and when you hurt my friends, you hurt me.God Bless you all. Emma xx