Michele Angelique
"missing my beautiful girlfriends..."
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The Road to New Beginnings
March 21st, 2006 12:57 pm MST
The Road To New Beginnings
Completion
Life is a collage of beginnings and endings that run together like still-wet paint. Yet before we can begin any new phase in life, we must sometimes first achieve closure to the current stage we are in. That's because many of life's experiences call for closure. Often, we cannot see the significance of an event or importance of a lesson until we have reached closure. Or, we may have completed a certain phase in life or path of learning and want to honor that ending. It is this sense of completion that frees us to open the door to new beginnings. Closure serves to tie up or sever loose ends, quiets the mind even when questions have been left unanswered, signifies the end of an experience, and acknowledges that a change has taken place.
The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to derive what lessons we can from an experience. Without closure, there is no resolution and we are left to grieve, relive old memories to the point of frustration, or remain forever connected to people from our past. A sense of completion regarding a situation may also result when we accept that we have done our best. If you can't officially achieve closure with someone, you can create completion by participating in a closure ritual. Write a farewell letter to that person and then burn your note during a ceremony. This ritual allows you to consciously honor and appreciate what has taken place between you and release the experience so you can move forward.
Closure can help you let go of feelings of anger or uncertainty regarding your past even as you honor your experience - whether good or bad - as a necessary step on your life's path. Closure allows you to emotionally lay to rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down your spirit. When you create closure, you affirm that you have done what was needed, are wiser because of your experience, and are ready for whatever life wants to bring you next.
The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to derive what lessons we can from an experience. Without closure, there is no resolution and we are left to grieve, relive old memories to the point of frustration, or remain forever connected to people from our past. A sense of completion regarding a situation may also result when we accept that we have done our best. If you can't officially achieve closure with someone, you can create completion by participating in a closure ritual. Write a farewell letter to that person and then burn your note during a ceremony. This ritual allows you to consciously honor and appreciate what has taken place between you and release the experience so you can move forward.
Closure can help you let go of feelings of anger or uncertainty regarding your past even as you honor your experience - whether good or bad - as a necessary step on your life's path. Closure allows you to emotionally lay to rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down your spirit. When you create closure, you affirm that you have done what was needed, are wiser because of your experience, and are ready for whatever life wants to bring you next.
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I received this email from www.dailyom.com today, and felt it to be a timely message pertaining to some of the things I am feeling right now. Closure is a necessary step toward emotional healing. I thought I would share this message with you because many of you have experienced in the past, or are currently dealing with, the same type of sadness that I feel right now.
Onward and upward, my dearest sisters.
Much love,
Michele
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This is a lovely and timely article for all seasons. We often hear people say that thet dislike funerals and do not like to go to them. This has always seemed a silly statement to me. Funerals were never meant to be a "Disney World" experience to begin with.
Your article mentions closure as a vital component of grief, resolution, taking stock of things, and moving onward. The ritual of a funeral also is closure in so many ways. It allows you to say "Goodbye!" to someone you knew and/or loved. Your presence helps the grieving family to get thru this important period of closure for them. It is also a sign of respect too.
We all achieve closure in our differnt ways. For me it is a walk in the woods near my home or a walk along the beach, especially on an autumn or winter day. For me deep reflection helps nurture this period of reflective thought.
We need to realize that, as they say, "This too shall pass!"
Thank You Michele for this timely article. I am saddened and empathetic for you but know that you shall rebound and move on ever upward !
Sincerely & Sympathetically,
~KAREN~
Hiya Michele
This made me feel all sad too ......
Hope your smile returns soon ....... it would be a shame to let that pretty face stay sad too long.
Thinking about you girl .....
Kirsty
xxx xxx