URNotAlone

Why Do I Love Transwomen?

February 1st, 2007 6:04 pm MST

Because I am a natural born woman, I have been asked on more occasions than I can count, "why" do I care about transgender issues and "why" do I have so many friends in the online trans community, since I myself am not trans?  I was born female, so "why" am I here online representing and supporting transgender women?  My reasons are a combination of personal, social and spiritual.  I'd like to write a little more about each of these areas, then expand in future blogs based on your interests.

Personal Reasons…

On a personal level, I am bisexual femme top, so none other suits me as well as a bi-gendered male-to-female (M2F) transwoman. No other type of potential love partner is more attractive to me, particularly those who are comfortable with both sides of their gender. 

For a male crossdressing en femme, it is often erotic, sensual and sexual, yet it goes even deeper because dressing allows his inner feminine to emerge from the heart of a man, invoking a feeling of relief and joy as she is able to breathe through her true self.  To observe, participate, facilitate this emotional healing is blissful to me, satisfying and fulfilling beyond measure.

All my romantic/sexual inclinations are for M2F trans of all degrees from crossdresser, femboi, transvestite, bi-gendered, transgendered, transsexual – all males who respectfully cross the gender line are so beautiful in my eyes. Someone who can switch between male and female, or who embodies both at one time, is the ideal match for a bisexual woman like me. This intense attraction is the magnet that keeps me transfixed, despite that I myself am not trans, the love of my life certainly will be.

Social Reasons…

On a social level, it is from a strong feminist perspective that I support transwomen.  I am someone who believes that feminine is of equal value to masculine, and it is healthy and normal for females to be masculine, or males to be feminine. Because I am a feminist, I admire the ideals of femininity, so it makes perfect sense to me that many humans aspire to the feminine, no matter whether they are anatomically female or male. 

Society has a deep-seated underlying disregard for the feminine, which is why women and transwomen are not treated as equals to men. The gender imbalance is a social problem which has existed for millenniums. All feminine people, genetic women and transwomen, are on the same side of the movement toward true gender equality. 

As a feminist, I love and revere the feminine, so I hold in most special regard those born male who have the strength to be feminine in this harsh and cruel world.  Males who possess such an inner goddess essence that they choose to cross the gender divide and become one of us, are the ultimate feminists in my book.  I urge all women, all feminists, to recognize and embrace transgender women as our true sisters.

Spiritual Reasons…

From a spiritual perspective, I believe the human soul is genderless.  I believe our Higher Power is genderless.  It is only in physical earthly form that we are bound to vessels which are gendered.  In our angelic forms, we have the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of both feminine and masculine, in perfect balance and harmony. 

I believe it is evolutionary for humans to transcend societal bondage of stereotypical polarities, in particular the illusion of binary gender.  As we evolve as human beings, we get closer to our angelic forms, we find a growing inner knowing of both masculinity and femininity.  People who cross the human-made gender construct are only following a natural course of soul evolution. 

We as human beings are not meant to be caged by the artificial duality we have created for ourselves. The time has come to transcend the illusion and ascend into our most beautiful selves.

What Do You Think?

So you see, I have a number of reasons for loving transwomen. I could write so much more if you are interested. I would like to hear from you. Along which of these lines – personal, social or spiritual - should I expand my writing?

Much love to all of you beautiful URNA sisters!