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2008 in Review
Dan™ & Erin™ December 31st, 2008 2:28 pm MST
Well, it's definitely been an interesting year. A lot has happened. I ended a relationship with the best girlfriend I've ever had (though she still wasn't right), I've watched my prosperity complete dry up, I've almost completely stopped smoking and my drinking is almost not even noticeable at this point. I've fallen in love with the most incredible woman and I'm slowly figuring things out.

When the year began, I was worried about money. My company stopped producing and selling adult content which resulted in a massive drop of revenue. Around the same time, I broke my primary revenue producing website preventing people with IE 6 from accessing it, so I spent most of the year working on a new design which finally went online in August.

I really thought most of my financial problems were my fault. The result of changes in my companies business model and my own failing's running the web sites. In fact, I was so busy trying to figure out what I was doing wrong that I didn't notice the world collapsing slowly outside my window.

I had to cash in my kids college funds to pay bills. I had to cancel my life insurance to pay bills. When my car died, I decided to sell it for scrap rather than repair it. Fewer bills again. My house is usually a bit chilly and dark to save on utilities. I've reduced my monthly budget by around 2,000. I've been selling furniture to buy groceries.

For everything that had gone wrong, I'm optimistic. Not because I see an end in sight, but because I feel like I'm getting a handle on things. I have the best friends of my life. I'm in love for the first time in my life. I'm relatively healthy and my kids are healthy and seem well adjusted.

I think things are going to get worse. A lot worse, but I'm confident that we'll all get through this. As a planet, we need to step back and assess what's important. We need to focus on the things that need to be done, and we need to start working towards a better future.

I think we'll do it.

I hope.
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URNA DETECTIVES NEWS FLASH! DAN, JON & THE CASE OF THE MISSING JOURNAL ENTRIES!
Karen Reeves December 27th, 2008 8:54 pm MST
Hi Everyone!

It appears that the case of the missing journal entry postings has been SOLVED!

I can see from my own list of the number of journal entries posted on my site that last June 4th was a busy day. I know I have posted quite a few journal entries over the years but not 53 of them!!! I can talk and write alot but . . . . .

Trying to repair the site the guys posted over 30 test entries on my site in just a few hours! When the site recently got repaired these disappearing journal entries suddenly reappeared. I just noticied this and have spent time deleting the test items.

I would suggest that everyone go delete repetative journal/test items to cut down on the clutter.

Thanks Dan & Jon for the great work in making Urnotalone such an awesome place!!! You have proved yourselves again!

*Smiles*

~Karen~
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Merry xMas!
Dan™ & Erin™ December 25th, 2008 7:35 am MST
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Merry Christmas 2008 To You All!
Karen Reeves December 20th, 2008 11:51 pm MST
Hi Everyone!

It is that time of year and yesterday's/today's snowstorm just seems to add to the festive mood of Christmas. I know that getting ready for the holidays can be stressful and painful.

I enjoy all the bright lights, good cheer, parties, the presents, and Xmas dinner. But let us remember the true meaning of Xmas. It is the day that we celeberate the life of one person and the meaning of what it is to strive and have a better planet to live on.

Enjoy your holidays no matter your belief system!!!!!

*Kisses*

~Karen~
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GOOBLE GOOBLE GOOBLE-Some November Thoughts !
Karen Reeves November 16th, 2008 10:00 pm MST
Hi Everyone!

I hope that all of you have a great Thanksgiving. We all have, though it may not seem that way many times, so much to be thankful for. The next time you get down emotionally remember that things could be a whole lot worse. Many people are in that predicament.

Don't each too much turkey!

*Kisses*

~Karen~
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Purple America
Dan™ & Erin™ November 7th, 2008 3:03 pm MST
For those of you who still think that the election was close, take a look at these two maps. One shows the counties in their actual size shaded blue or red based on what the population voted.

This map shows each county with a size set by the population. It looks a lot less red.

This is far more of the mandate the George W Bush claimed four years ago, this is a landslide. For those of you that fear a socialist government, let me just state the following:

1. Socialist nations like Denmark, Normay, Sweden and Holland have:
1. Highest quality of living
2. Highest per capita income
3. Highest literacy rates
4. Lowest crime rates
5. Lowest infant mortality rates
6. Things like HRT and SRS are covered by the national health
I've heard a lot of people claim that Obama was a socialist. He's not. I wish he was, but I would have been no more enthusiastic of his candidacy.

Be that as it may, why would socialism be so scary anyway?

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Halloween has always been my favorite holiday
Dan™ & Erin™ October 20th, 2008 1:50 pm MDT
Halloween has always been my favorite Holiday. Godless heathen that I am, there aren't many holidays that don't have the flavor of one of more gods tainting them. That's all right. I love Solstice decorations, and even some Christmas decorations (I usually have angels on my tree). Easter is fun because of coloring eggs and candy. I guess you could say that I enjoy some holidays that have been co-opted by religions in spite of that. Halloween though has always had a special place in my heart. There isn't a related religious holiday to be seen. It's all about dressing up and having fun. A final harvest festival to usher in the cold snowy months. I just got news that is going to make Halloween even better for me. I just got a notice from the Clerk of the Court of Common Please, Franklin County Ohio, Domestic Division. After six long irritating years of playing silly buggers in the court system, the judge has finally lost patience and is going to grant me an uncontested divorce! My children and I haven't even SEEN their mother is eight years! I always celebrated Halloween in Boston with the drag queens and transvestites. It's always a really fun time. I've been planning a "Bachelor Party" to coincide with my divorce. I think this is going to be an annual event! Anyway, I'm excited. The only fly in the ointment is that I am supposed to be in court at 9 am and my flight for Boston is scheduled for 1:20 pm the same day, so I may have to see about pushing it back. Either way, I'm pretty excited!
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The Candidates, simplified
Dan™ & Erin™ October 9th, 2008 11:12 pm MDT
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Open Casting Call for Gothcoming 2k8 (Chas Ray Krider)
Dan™ & Erin™ August 29th, 2008 12:37 pm MDT
Chas Ray Krider (http://www.motelfetish.com) and Daniel Goode (http://www. retrokitten.com) will be holding open casting call interviews at The Invisible Studio for Gothcoming 2k8 (Friday Oct 3rd, 2008).

Chas will be interviewing for assistants and performers for an installation piece the night of Gothcoming.

Daniel is interviewing for Box Dancers and general assistants.

Wednesday August 3rd
2PM - 5PM
7PM - 9PM

The Invisible Studio
219 King Ave
Columbus OH, 43201
http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&geocode=&q=219+King+Ave+Columbus+OH&sll=37.0625,-95.677068&sspn=44.069599,68.203125&ie=UTF8&ll=39.990454,-83.012202&spn=0.010456,0.016651&z=16&iwloc=addr

If you are unable to attend the open casting call, you can contact Chas or Daniel directly to set up and interview.

Chas Ray Krider 614 327-2793
Daniel Goode 614 546-9117

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Say Hello to Roxy
Dan™ & Erin™ August 17th, 2008 6:44 pm MDT
Today, Lynne and I bought the most adorable Chihuahua. We found her through http://petfinder.com. She was from a mother that was rescued from a puppy mill.

She is quite possibly the most adorable animal that we've ever seen. I'm really glad we are able to give her a good home. Our cats of course don't seem really thrilled yet, but I'm sure they will come around.

It's been a good weekend. Things aren't turning around yet, but progress is being made in all of the right directions.

http://gallery.me.com/dan.frederick/100169

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Making Memories
Dan™ & Erin™ August 16th, 2008 3:36 pm MDT
When I was five years old, I over heard my older foster sisters (10 and 12) talking about going to a "Teddy Bear Picnic". I was so excited. I imagined that the Teddy Bears came to life and played with you. I begged them to let me come along but they wouldn't let me.

Finally, I resorted to the tried and true method of little brothers everywhere and implored my foster mother. She told my sisters that they HAD to take me and they relented. Or so I thought...

With my radio flyer tied inexpertly to my tricycle (which was still wobbly from my failed re-enactment of the Monkee's opening credit trick where they rode mopeds down stairs) and my favorite Teddy Bear snuggled securely for the ride across town, we pedaled to the corner of Weir Street.

At the very moment that we reached the corner, my sisters, with some pre-arranged signal, sped away on their two wheeled bicycles.

I yelled and I cried, but the tears made it impossible for me to see where they went.

I rode my tricycle down the alley behind our house and crawled into the wagon with my Teddy Bear and cried and cried and cried.

From that point on, I hated them and I never forgave them for depriving me of my chance to go to the Teddy Bear Picnic.

Fast Forward 33 years, and my lovely girlfriend Lynne informs me that there is an opportunity for us to volunteer with Nationwide Children's Hospital at the Teddy Bear Safari at the Columbus Zoo. You'd better believe that I jumped all over that.

This is probably my favorite volunteer gig to date. Seeing children of all ages with their teddy bears. Eyes full of wonder as they help their furry little friends get check ups and vaccinations.

Truth be told, I wasn't ready to quit when my shift was up. They had to tell me repeatedly that I could go, and finally, Lynne had to drag me away. I would have stayed all day if I could.

I didn't get to create many happy memories when I was a child, and I'll be damned if I'm going to let another child miss out on that opportunity.

To commemorate this awesome day, I bought a new teddy bear, and I even got her a friend. Without out further ado, let me introduce you to Flo (IceFlow) the polar bear cub, and her best friend Xavier the cephalopod.

I've been rather lax in posting and I'm a little behind so here are photos from our trip to Cedar Point last weekend.

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Untitled Post
Dan™ & Erin™ July 17th, 2008 10:29 pm MDT
Nate, Lynne and I drove to Cincinnati for dinner with Deb and Tammie. Jasmine was going to come, but Rocky was sick. I understand completely.

We had a lovely meal at a Thai place. We were completely full and getting ready to drive home. We were in fact in the car, when Lynne suddenly shouts "KITTENS!"

Playing around the dumpster, were five of the most adorable kittens you will ever see. We went over to the dumpster while they scampered around. On the side of the restaraunt, someone had erected a little shelter and their were clean plates scattered around.

While we were investigating, the owner of the restaurant and his daughter came out. It seems the mother had abandoned the kittens (or perhaps she was hit by a car or something), and the kittens had been motherless for about five days.

The owner, and elderly Thai man had been trying to get them into shelters, but Cincinnati apparently has weird rules and they hadn't been able to find people to take them. (Go ahead and say it, an asian place where kittens weren't being used as food...) anyway...

We decided that we need to rescue them and at least bring them to a shelter in Columbus.

I currently have five kittens playing in my basement.

Here's the deal. We'd like them to find homes. The Shelter is OK, but ideally, if there is someone out there that would like a kitten, now's your chance. FREE to a good home.

I've posted a photo gallery to weaken your will.

Seriously, just go an look. What could it hurt? ehh? ehh?

[cuteness]

We are taking them to the shelter tomorrow around four pm, so you don't have a lot of time to decide. Seriously, they can't be more than four or five weeks old, they've already had rough lives. Wouldn't you like to give them a happy home?
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Help me get another facial!
Dan™ & Erin™ June 12th, 2008 11:43 am MDT

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For some reason, gay people and their friends are often in the service industry. Bartenders, waiters, stylists, airline attendants. You don't take advantage of these relationships per se. It just makes your life easier.

One of my "Shopping Friends" Kelly, works at Phia in the Short North. Last week, I took k8e in for her first "Big Girl" salon visit and Kelly harped on me to come in. I cut my own hair, I do my own eyebrows, I really don't need to go to a salon...

or so I thought.

I went in this morning and got the "New Customer" Discount. $25 for a cut, eye brow wax, facial, hot towel and scalp massage.

WOW. I don't know why I haven't been doing this for years. Seriously. My best friend Michael always went to Salons and I chided him for wasting his money. I never understood. I would get a manicure while he slipped away into the bowels of the salon. He was always perkier and happier, but I thought it was just because he had spent a lot of money, not because he had been pampered. I get it now.

So here's the deal. Call Phia. Ask for an appointment with Kelly, and tell them that Daniel Frederick referred you. You'll get $10 off your first visit, and more importantly, "I'll" get $10 off "MY" next visit.

Seriously. I need to do this once a week. I feel like a million dollars. This needs to be part of my Friday ritual.

Please please please. Help me get a facial.

Oh, and for those of you who know me, I still giggle when I say the word "facial".
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Trouble is HOME!!!
Dan™ & Erin™ June 11th, 2008 4:45 pm MDT

We had almost given up hope. My phone rang again this afternoon. Pete, the cook at Victorian's Midnight Cafe had adopted a stray from behind the bar last Thursday. It was Trouble!

He's home safe and sound. He has a brand new collar, fresh pet grass and more hugs and kisses then he probably wants.

That stupid douche. When I get done crying, I'm going to kill him!

Lynne and I are in Michigan for her nieces graduation party this weekend, but we'll be home Sunday.

HOORAY, the TROUBLE CAT is home SAFE!!!!!!
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Things We Lost in the Fire
Dan™ & Erin™ June 9th, 2008 7:33 am MDT
When I was about fifteen, I discovered the incredible joy of cross-country bicycling. For four years, I competed on an amateur level in Centuries and Double Centuries all over the mid west (a century is 100 miles). I was good, never great, but I did it because I loved the feeling of getting out on the road with the wind in my hair. It's one of the reasons I started shaving my body, and still do to this day.

In 1989, I entered the Marine Corps, and except for occasional stints with mountain biking, I never really got back in cycling.

Thirteen years ago, after seven different knee surgeries, the Navy finally decided they couldn't fix this broken Marine and gave me a medical discharge. Over the years, I've tried running, swimming, pilates, a dozen things. For some reason, I never got back into cycling.

This last week, I've been walking about three miles a day looking for our missing cat Trouble. I've spent each day sweating and generally feeling awful, but each day seemed a little easier.

Today at Target, something got into Lynne and I. I can't say what it was, but we suddenly found ourselves packing two brand spanking new Schwinn bicycles into our car.

After about an hour of tinkering and adjusting our bicycles, we heading out for the bike paths by the Olentangy River.

I don't remember feeling like this since 1989. Wind rushing past my face. Leg muscles pumping as I shitfted gears and climbed a hill. The smooth effortless thrill of pushing myself faster and faster.

I've found something that I lost. I can't believe that I didn't miss it. I'm not going to give this up again. I'm not going to ever give away something that makes me feel this good again.

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THIS IS ONLY A TEST! SOME JUNE THOUGHTS
Karen Reeves June 4th, 2008 7:13 pm MDT
Hi Everyone!

This is a test to see if I can input my journal entry. Fingers crossed!

Summer is almost here. I know that 90 degree weather and 95% humidity does not do much for makeup. The season does not always lend itself to dressing up. The dressed go into the box and the boxes go into the closest.

Why not slip into that swimsuit and go on out and get a great tan in a nice secluded surrounding. Or be more brave and go out in public with a cute, sleeveless top and min shorts/skirt. Give the guys some "eye candy!"

*Kisses*

~Karen~
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Testing Journal Posting
Karen Reeves June 4th, 2008 7:08 pm MDT
Testing basic journal posting for Jon and Dan

Hmm, seems to work. Not sure about everything.
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THIS IS ONLY A TEST! SOME JUNE THOUGHTS
Karen Reeves June 4th, 2008 6:36 pm MDT
Hi Everyone!

I am writing this journal entry to see if it will input or not! *Fingers crossed*

Summer is almost here and for many girls the makeup and clothes go into the box and the box goesinto the closet. While makeup does not work well in 90 degree weather and worse in 90% humidity you can still enjoy dressing. How about buying a new swim suit and sunning yourself in a secluded spot? Or if you are more adventuresome go out in public in a smart little outfit or a sleveless top and mini shorts! Give the guys some "eye candy!"

Enjoy the great weather!

*Hugz*

~Karen~
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Gay Leather Bar + Karaoke = AWESOME
Dan™ & Erin™ June 4th, 2008 11:20 am MDT

My friend Chris is running Karaoke at EXILE on Wednesdays. I didn't make it last week, but I'm going tonight. I'm really not sure why every single Karaoke DJ downtown is one of my friends, but I blame Jasmine.

It gives me a chance to try out my awesome new leather chaps that I got for $60 in Lancaster. Who knew there would be such awesome savings out in the sticks!

We are probably heading over around 10:30 or 11. Exile is located on 4th St between 1st and 2nd Avenue. The bar used to be called Patrick's.

I used to go to Exile all the time, but over the years, too many memories built up and I couldn't go in without crying (shut up Jasmine). Remember, I'm not a goth. I'm a gay leather power bottom. I only started frequenting the goth scene because I needed a place to go where my investment in clothes wasn't going to be wasted.

If you want to come along, I'm getting a crew together. Come with me and experience my roots. It will be a walk down Amnesia Lane.
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The Best Deep Dish Pizza You Aren't Eating in Columbus
Dan™ & Erin™ May 22nd, 2008 11:12 am MDT
I've been craving Chicago Deep Dish Pizza for a while. Lynne took me to Pizzeria Uno over by Tuttle, and it was good, but not great. Then Sarah told me about Fabian's on High Street. I've driven by this place a dozen times and hadn't thought twice about it. Some people have a preference for the style of Pizza. New York Style, Chicago Style, Midwest Style (which is apparently small, tasteless and cut into fucking squares). I tend to like it all. Good New York slices of pie can't be beat, but sometimes, you just want a nice stuffed deep dish Chicago Pie, and Fabians has it. Seriously. I haven't had a deep dish pizza this good since I was last in Chicago. And apparently no one knows about them. The place was mostly dead. Some regulars at the bar and maybe two other couples eating pie. I actually had a chance to talk to the Chef. I complimented him on his pie and told him I would tell everyone I know, which is why you are here now If you love Chicago Style Deep Dish Pizza and need a good local place, go to Fabians. If you've never had it but are curious, get your butt there. Seriously. It's a bit more than regular pizza, but you can generally only eat two pieces and that means left overs. I'm eating a slice right now. MMMM. It's just as good as it was last night. So get your fucking asses there, try it out. If you like it, make sure you tell EVERYONE you know. I can't always drive to Chicago for good pie, and now I don't have to!

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