Demi Lautrec
"misses my friends at URNA!"
Journal Entries for Demi Lautrec
Confessions...
August 1st, 2007 8:16 pm MDT
my latest blog from my yahoo360 site, click on the link at my urna page :
Confessions of an Urna-holic...Ok, despite my best intentions I got caught up in the ratings game again at URNotAlone. Just as some girls get hooked on games, on virtual lifes, on cyber-whatever...I get hooked on the ratings. It obviously shows some not-so-deep-seated flaw in my character that i am so in need of that sort of validation. And yes, the dark side of the transgendered community is alive and well in those silly little clicks of anything from 1 to 10. But let me suggest...there are really good things that arise from the engagement in one's vanity over there. It is a community, and every little profile is like a rowhouse on the lane, and it is fun to get to know the people a bit more than just a picture and a blog. It's a world of all types at Urna, much like the world-at-large, only highly concentrated in tgirls and their admirers. And speaking of which, is it just me or are we seeing a little more transparency in the admirer community? I mean, pics and all! Not a troll shot among them. Thats got to be a brave thing to do.
I showed btw, came in third. The winner was far more deserving, an active member of the community, and a lovely person. The place position was taken by last month's winner. Should that be allowed?? Meowwwww!
One can always come back to Urna and not be alone :)
July 12th, 2007 9:29 am MDT
Hi, just looking to renew some old friendships, I've lost touch with so many great people I met here, and would really love to hear from you. My ratings are enabled, but I'm really not looking for a vote, been down that road and it seems to have gotten rather cut throat, which is not any part of who i am. But this is really the best way to maintain visibility here. So I will settle for being an 8 or 9 (pretty darn good on any other scale) as I try to reach out to familiar faces and old friends. Please do not hesitate to send me a "hey" if you see this.I still think the best of us can be found right here!
Give yourself a Valentine today
February 14th, 2007 6:19 am MST
As I signed up for an upgrade last night (because I simply can't get enough of my girlfriends at Urna), it dawned on me that WE are the attraction and the "product" here (duh). Lots of people come here just to experience "us", whether it be our pictures, our thoughts, our friendship...well, mostly our pictures, but that's ok because we put ourselves out here for for a reason. Be proud knowing that whatever you are trying to get out of being here is reciprocated, many times over.
So celebrate yourself today girls! Take a bubble bath, get pretty, buy yourself a beautiful red rose, or that new ensemble at V.S. Take another picture! And if you have someone to love, don't forget to thank them and give them a gift for being there for you, too. And be there for them in return! Huggs Demi Lautrec
Gratuitous plug
February 11th, 2007 11:51 am MST
The guys here at Urna gave me an upgrade membership for a whole year when i was named Member of the month a year ago last December. It expired last month, and i really miss having the extra access it provided. I guess I really like to know everyone here as well as i can. So im kicking in my own hard earned cash for another annual upgrade this month, it seems like a smart and not terribly expensive way to show how much I appreciate Urna. And no, I didnt get paid to say this!
The bitch is back!
February 3rd, 2007 9:11 am MST
Hi everyone! I've been away, suffering from applied schizophrenia, as I had really come to believe the ratings here, which puts me at either a "10" or a "1" depending on the rater. My shrink is trying to get me to accept that just makes me a "5" in the long run, and to be done with it. And then my sig other tells me that "numbers dont count", which bless her heart seems to be a misapplication of logic. I tell her "well maybe numbers don't count but people sure do" and she has nothing in response. But I've bellied back up to the bar, and now i find that the old days of 300 and more votes has dwindled to 100 or more at most....and you have to practically beg for them(which i can apply that particular energy elsewhere). Have people lost the zeal to appeal? Did the great lobbyists of the past move on to more political ambitions? Are we all just a little less opinionated? I thought maybe if Urna just goes ahead and creates an "11" rating we might get the thing going again (you know, those that say "If i could i would give you an ___ ....") but then im sure there would be a clamoring for a "zero" vote too. Well clearly i have more work to do to resolve myself to not caring. As long as there is an Urna, I think I will secretly (or openly) wonder how I rate! (And spare me that "its whats inside" stuff, our insides are no better than a "1" collectively based on what i've seen on CSI). You have to hand it to the guys here...they clearly found the sweet spot of open ended vanity among the transgendered of the world. Of course we want to be someone else, and dammit we want to be the very best someone else we can be!! And rated accordingly!! Huggs and a big 10 to all you beautiful girls!
SCC Regrets
September 10th, 2006 10:44 am MDT
I'm sorry to say I will not be able to make SCC this year, its a real dissapointment and im sending out this journal note in the event i miss somebody with the update. I was so looking forward (loved the Be-All in Chicago!). I hope everyone who is attending has the time of their lives! Huggs Demi Lautrec
Change is Good
April 1st, 2006 9:18 am MST
It is a foregone conclusion that we, more than ever, are driven towards choice and variety in everything. And you may have noticed...being a tg online places you in the forefront of change, pursuing every possible outlet to explore your tg-ness, and demanding variety in that pursuit. Quite simply URNA is not the only outlet here for us to explore, and far from it! It is to Jon and Dans credit they recognize this, and constantly strive to make THEIR site OUR site. At first glance, I thought this latest evolution of the ratings system, effectively creating more "contests", seemed counter to the implied negative bent ive noticed from Jon and Dan on "ratings" overall. But it appears they are simply trying to strengthen an asset and make it more relevant to the broader community reflected at URNA today, and in the process move it away from a tired and pandering device dominated by the few. If we are going to rate (and apparently we are) it should be a mechanism for bringing us together and exposing us to the many facets of our community, not break us into factions, triggering the "manly" competitive zeal I have personally too often associated with the ratings here.
So three cheers to Jon and Dan for this latest effort to keep URNA fresh and engaging. I've already seen more new and eager members of our community as a result. I do hope this continues to be a dimension of this new face on ratings. Just another way to help us ALL appreciate that we are, in fact, SO far from alone!
Deserving
March 25th, 2006 9:37 pm MST
In these last few days of the month, I have a special favor to ask. Please, read the profiles of the people who are on the list to be voted as member of the month. And then , if you havent voted, vote a 10 for the person who strikes you as truly deserving of that honor. Vote a 10 for someone you would want representing YOU. Don't vote a 10 to the person that sends a comment your way, that if you would just check looks exactly like the comment they sent to the other four people before you. Vote for the person with the good heart, the kind word, the attitude you would want to see in someone you would want to call a friend. And if you see someone up there who by comparison looks and sounds classless and crass, use your Jon-given power to vote them out of there.
Observations
March 11th, 2006 10:46 pm MST
I think this is a very comforting observation: the same personality and behavioral profiles that are found in the population at learge seem to be evenly distributed throughout our little world in the transgendered community. Guess what! That confirms what we already know, which is that WE mirror the communities we come from!!! It also suggests there are as many colors as the rainbow, and we demonstrate that in our varied lives, and it is so evident in how we characterize ourselves in our profiles!
Those of us who are making an attempt to observationally reflect and communicate back what we as a community are...these are the people we should listen to!! Years from now, these are the voices that will be heard, read and decifered with regard to what was going on in our world today. What a fascinating time to be among the transgendered, and among those who seek answers.
I am so proud to be one of us, today,
