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February 16th, 2007 3:02 pm MST

An observation and realization for me these past months. I seem to be attracting a certain type of crossdresser wo is interested in getting together with me. In one sense, it is very flattering to have someone contact me and want to know about me, at least, in terms of crossdressing. What I find curious is that most seem to be married, as am I, and are trying to keep it together and at the same time, wanting to be discreet and "under the radar" about their xdressing or meeting anyone from their spouse. I completely understand, since I am in somewhat of a similar situation. My wife knows I dress and have other crossdressing friends, but she is not too thrilled about it and also our relatinship has evolved over time to where we still love each other, but are no longer sexually intimate. So, we have become more like best friends, instead of intimate husband and wife. I bring this up because this seems such an important issue among crossdressers, and one where there is no one solution or opinion. In one way, I feel guilty that I have to meet other crossdressers in secret or feel I am "cheating" on my wife and others. Then again, I feel even more of a burden when I have to deal with another crossdresser who is also married and trying to keep it a secret from his wife and family. I have decided not to be involved anymore with someone who has a family or is married, since that is always this "800 pound elephant (or is it a xdressed gorilla?) in the room." I know this is a mixed-up ethics bag and not overly consistent on my part (what about me meeting single xdressers?)... But, whoever said Life was consistent and ideal? I am just constructing this part of my life as it goes along. I have heard that other crossdressers go through stages, where the thrill of crossdressing comes and goes, so I guess I am evolving to that point and will continue to go through my own unique journey.