Victoria Jaye
"is helping others having $$$ trouble"
Journal Entries for Victoria Jaye
Civil Union Inadequacies..
June 18th, 2007 7:59 pm MDT
Hi Gang, Just wangted to share some news on the civil union front. The NY Times posed an opinion piece that all should read. Call on Plessy V Ferguerson arguments of Separate but equal..very good stuff! The Link and the Story are below... http://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/07/opinion/7thu3.html?ex=1338868800&en=741609e6aa8c3d5d&ei=5124&partner=permalink&exprod=permalink EditorialThe Inadequacy of Civil UnionsPublished: June 7, 2007 A potentially groundbreaking legal battle over Connecticut’s exclusion of gay people from the state’s marriage law has catapulted the debate over same-sex marriage to a new level. Appearing last month before the state’s highest court, a lawyer representing eight same-sex couples led a spirited attack on Connecticut’s refusal to grant gay couples the freedom to marry. He also challenged the notion that civil union laws — like those enacted in Connecticut, New Jersey, Vermont, and most recently New Hampshire — are a constitutionally adequate alternative.The plaintiffs’ argument was laced with references to Plessy v. Ferguson, the U.S. Supreme Court’s notorious 1896 decision which justified racial segregation under a deplorable standard of “separate but equal.” Although startling, the analogy is apt. In establishing civil unions two years ago, Connecticut lawmakers created a separate and inherently inferior institution that continues to deny gay couples the equality they seek and deserve. Connecticut would seem a particularly hospitable place to advance this equality claim. In addition to requiring equal treatment for individuals in comparable circumstances, and barring sex-discrimination, Connecticut’s Constitution explicitly forbids gender-based “segregation.”State lawyers answer that the basis for the exclusion is not gender but sexual orientation, a category not covered by existing antidiscrimination provisions. That is true, but forbidding marriages when one partner is the wrong gender still adds up to sex discrimination. The state also asserts that the civil union law grants all the rights of marriage to same-sex couples, and any difference amounts to “a difference in name alone.” A trial court judge bought that argument and dismissed the case last year, saying the plaintiffs suffered no legal harm.Saying a civil union is the same as marriage does not make it so. Civil unions are a newly invented category, neither universally recognized nor understood. Connecticut’s claim that the two terms are alike merely underscores the bottom-line question: Why relegate a minority group to a separate category?The court case has helped stall this issue in Connecticut’s Legislature. But if the ruling goes against the couples involved, the Legislature will have a duty to revisit the matter. A law that allows civil unions but not marriage is preferable to denying benefits and recognition to same-sex couples. But no one should confuse it with equality.
Dealing with Loss...
June 7th, 2007 10:12 am MDT
Hey Gang, So on balance this has been a frustrating year. Moving forward with transistioning has been slower than anticipated, I lost a job i held for more than seven years, financial difficulties, and I have just learned someone I've been freinds with for quite some time has passed away. http://profiles.urnotalone.com/SlaveGirlToniToni was pretty quiet community wise and apprantly she left us a few weeks ago. Toni was a good person and worked for the government. She even had to go into protective custody as she was a whistleblower in a corruption case here in Connecticut. With her gone, and everything else this year, I find myself reflective today about life and how short it can be. I find my patience wearing thin in trying to manifest change. I find myself itchy to live life to the fullest!Its hard to believe that so many things have changed in such a short period..yet I don't feel sad right now, a little nervous about what the future holds, but not sad. Anyhow, these are random thoughts floating thru my head.Hope this note finds, YOU well!Victoria
So much to do!
April 9th, 2007 7:34 am MDT
Hi all.. Just taking a minute to update on my so called hectic life--- this one is total stream of conciousness... Been working feverishly geeting ready for my trip to California! I'm looking for work out there so if you know oif stuff in the entertainment field give a shout!
To get ready I've been getting all techie and now have a laptop! woohoo! Of course installing programs is a pain.
I'm off to get my name offically changed so people arent confused when applying for jobs....Spring cleaning and taxes have been in the works since Friday, that eats a lot of time!
Someone thought I posted my face on my own body for my newest pic..they thought it was someone else's body....LOL That's a New one for me!
IT's Time to Scoot.. I need to go to the gym and do crunches till i puke. Hate those things! BUt it does keep me halfway skinny! Till next time I hope all your Galactic Orbits™ are going well! 
Stand with Stanton!!!!
March 8th, 2007 8:56 pm MST
Less than a week after Largo City Manager Steve Stanton announced he was transgendered, the small Florida community's city commission fired him*. This is workplace discrimination, plain and simple. I just signed the 'Stand with Stanton' petition, and I hope you will too: http://nsrc.sfsu.edu/Petition.cfm
When the Commission fired Stanton, they ignored his excellent record as an energetic and effective leader. Stanton has received consistently positive performance reviews from the City Council and the Mayor while managing over 1,200 employees and the city's $130 million budget.
The promise of America is that if you are a good employee, you should be rewarded for it regardless of your race, creed, disability, gender or sexual orientation. Stanton's firing was an un-American display of workplace discrimination and this injustice should be reversed. Sign our 'Stand with Stanton' petition that we'll deliver to the City Commission in Largo, FL.
Xmas Tidings
December 24th, 2006 10:47 am MST
My Xmas Card to the internet...Cool Christmas Link #1!
http://ecard.ashland.edu/2004admission/index.html
Cool Christmas Link #2!
http://www.simonsezsanta.com/
Cool Christmas Link #3! (love the bunnies!)
http://www.starz.com/features/bunnyclub/christmas_vacation/index.html
I've decided to add these to my journal cuz this way we can visit year round!
Hope everyone is well!
Happy Holidaze,
VJ
This amused me perhaps it will you
December 2nd, 2006 7:43 am MST
http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g31/ban_dit68/comments%20and%20cherry/titled.jpg
Just copy the link above and pastes it into your address bar to see what I'm talking about.
Best,
VJ
Transvestite killings on the rise in Guatemala
November 24th, 2006 8:54 am MST
The Top 40 Things You'll Never Hear A Redneck Say
October 11th, 2006 7:33 pm MDT
40. She's too young to be wearing a bikini.
39. I'll take Shakespeare for 1000, Alex.
38. Duct tape won't fix that.
37. Honey, I think we should sell the pickup and buy a family sedan.
36. Come to think of it, I'll have a Heineken.
35. We don't keep firearms in this house.
34. Has anybody seen the sideburns trimmer?
33. You can't feed that to the dog.
32. I thought Graceland was tacky.
31. No kids in the back of the pickup, it's just not safe.
30. Wrestling's fake.
29. Honey, did you mail that donation to Greenpeace?
28. We're vegetarians.
27. Do you think my gut is too big?
26. I'll have grapefruit and grapes instead of biscuits and gravy.
25. Honey, we don't need another dog.
24. Who cares who won the Civil War?
23. Give me the small bag of pork rinds.
22. Too many deer heads detract from the decor.
21. Spitting is such a nasty habit.
20. I just couldn't find a thing at Walmart today.
19. Trim the fat off that steak.
18. Cappuccino tastes better than espresso.
17. The tires on that truck are too big.
16. I'll have the arugula and radicchio salad.
15. I've got it all on the C drive.
14. Unsweetened tea tastes better.
13. Would you like your fish poached or broiled?
12. My fiance, Bobbie Jo, is registered at Tiffany's.
11. I've got two cases of Zima for the Super Bowl.
10. Little Debbie snack cakes have too many fat grams.
9. Checkmate.
8. Oh I just couldn't, she's only sixteen.
7. Does the salad bar have bean sprouts?
6. Hey, here's an episode of "Hee Haw" that we haven't seen.
5. I don't have a favorite college team.
4. Be sure to bring my salad dressing on the side.
3. You all.
2. Those shorts ought to be a little longer, darlin'.
1. Nope, no more for me. I'm driving tonight.
Trangendered man's killer gets life....
September 21st, 2006 6:09 am MDT
Transgender man's killer gets life
The two left a nightclub together shortly before the 2003 slaying. The Largo man was arrested days later.
By NICOLE JOHNSON
Published September 20, 2006
http://www.sptimes.com/2006/09/20/Northpinellas/Transgender_man_s_kil.shtml
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LARGO - A Largo man who stabbed a transgender man to death after the two left a Clearwater nightclub together was sentenced Monday to life in prison.
William McHenry, 37, left Club Z109 with Lucas McCauley on the night of Dec. 6, 2003, and went to McCauley's home, 1701 Valencia Drive, Largo. There, authorities said, McHenry stabbed McCauley to death.
McCauley, 30, spent his days working as a unit secretary at Morton Plant Hospital in Clearwater. At night, he frequented Club Z109 dressed as a woman named Reshae. The club caters to a gay and transgender clientele.
Law enforcement had considered the murder a possible hate crime, said Largo police Chief Lester Aradi. Monday's sentencing brought relief to those who were involved with the case.
"This was a particularly heinous crime and a very traumatic one for the victim," Aradi said.
Kim McCauley, Lucas' mother, found her son dead the next night in the living room of his apartment, which was next door to her home.
McHenry, who at the time was living with a 55-year-old female companion, was arrested and charged with murder within days of the slaying. After a four-day trial that started earlier this month, jurors found McHenry guilty.
Pinellas-Pasco Circuit Judge DeeAnna Farnell sentenced McHenry.
The murder sparked fear in the gay and transgender community. Shortly after the crime, Equality Florida, a gay advocacy organization, held a vigil for McCauley.
"With this particular case being brought to justice, it is certainly a step in the right direction," said Brian Winfield, communications director for Equality Florida. "It's good to see that at least in some cases, justice is served."
Superman, Saving Private Ryan, Matrix, and How to survive an alien attack!
September 9th, 2006 7:26 am MDT
This one is for the movie lovers...
there is a group on youtube posting animated videos of how they think movies should of ended....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBsD1xIpJUI
this link is one of superman but they also do matrix braveheart star wars saving private ryan underworld and more!
Enjoy! 
VJ
answers to age old questions....
August 26th, 2006 11:12 am MDT
1) Which sexual position produces the ugliest children?
Ask your mother.
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2) How do you embarrass an archeologist?
Give him a tampon and ask him which period it came from.
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3) What's the difference between a bitch and a whore?
A whore sleeps with everybody at the party; A bitch sleeps
with everybody at the party except you.
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4) What's the difference between love, true love, and showing off?
Spitting, swallowing, and gargling.
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5) What's the difference between a Catholic wife and a Jewish wife?
A Catholic wife has real orgasms and fake jewelry.
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6) What makes men chase women they have no intention of marrying?
The same urge that makes dogs chase cars they have no
intention of driving.
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7) What is the biggest problem for an atheist?
No one to talk to during orgasm.
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8) What do you call an Amish guy with his hand up a horse's ass?
A mechanic.
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9) Who is the most popular guy at the nudist colony?
The guy who can carry a cup of coffee in each hand and a dozen
donuts.
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10) Who is the most popular girl at the nudist colony?
The one who can eat that last donut.
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11) The three words men hate to hear most during sex:
" Are you in?"
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12) The three words women hate to hear most during sex:
"Honey, I'm home!"
Hope you enjoy everyone!
Best,
VJ
Performing fer the first time...sort of
August 10th, 2006 5:56 am MDT
HI gang,
Just a heads up that I'll be doing some stand-up comedy.... as a GIRL! ITs a first for me sort of as I once played margaret Mead in Hair. This will be the first time as me ya know?
Anyways I'm very excited about all this (even a little nervous---I've been getting butterflies!) The place to see is Diamonz nite club in Bethlehem, PA. This Saturday. So if anyone is in the area and would like to come down for support that would be great!
Best,
VJ
USGA Welcomes Trans Golfers
July 10th, 2006 5:08 pm MDT
http://www.outsports.com/moresports/050325transgolf.htm
USGA Welcomes Trans Golfers
To little fanfare, the United States Golf Association this week adopted a policy to allow post-op transgender male-to-female golfers to participate in women’s tournaments.
Nary a whisper of it hit the airwaves. Not a peep was uttered about it on the Outsports.com discussion board. Even the guys on "Pardon The Interruption" missed it.
Sure, we’re talking about an incredibly miniscule number of people who might be affected. The number of transsexuals is a small fraction of the population; the number of transsexual golfers – well, I surely have more toes on one foot.
But, for heaven’s sake, the USGA is going to welcome transgender players on the women’s tour! This is the same organization that outwardly seems to try to quiet the lesbian talk surrounding its tours and still hasn’t seen a male pro come out. And they’re allowing former men to play on the women’s tour?
I can imagine the tears Danielle Swope shed when she heard the decision. Last summer, Swope, a hermaphrodite born with both male and female sexual organs, was denied in her request to play in a women’s event. Raised as Daniel, a boy, Swope underwent sex-reassignment surgery from 1995 to 1997 and has since lived as a woman.
The problem was that the USGA’s policy stated that, to play on the women’s tour, a golfer had to be “female at birth,” and that her birth certificate had to reflect that. Because Swope was outwardly male at birth, her birth certificate reflected that.
While the women’s tournament denied her request last July, she was invited to play in a men’s qualifier for the Fort Wayne Men's City Tournament. She was 5-foot-4 and weighed 160 pounds.
"I have respect for the men for at least giving me the opportunity to play,” she told the Associated Press at the time. “The women I don't have any respect for."
With the new policy, Swope, whose sex-reassignment surgery was now 10 years ago, and others like her will be able to compete on the women’s tour.
The USGA is certainly not the first. Golf has lead the rest of the sporting world in acceptance of transgender athletes. Australia’s Mianne Bagger has become the poster child for the cause. The female transgender golfer has participated in the Australian Women’s Open and just last month she made her European Tour debut. The International Olympic Committee has already opened the doors for transgender golfers.
On the surface, it’s surprising that the conservative sport of golf would be the first to open its country-club doors to transgender people. How could a sport that just recently began allowing black people in its clubs, still won’t let women join some clubs and keeps gay couples at bay be so progressive as to allow a former man to play on the woman’s tour?
While it may not make sense on the surface, there is logic to the madness.
A former man competing on a woman’s tour could be physiologically unfair. When testosterone is pumping through a person’s body for 20 or 30 years, that body is stronger than one that hasn’t had the luxury of that hormone. Of course, the USGA isn’t opening the door for every cross-dresser who likes to swing a golf club to enter women’s tour events; instead, the person must have had sex-reassignment surgery and must have been taking estrogen for at least two years.
According to Pauline Park, co-chair of the New York Association for Gender Rights Advocacy, the estrogen actually reduces some of the muscle the testosterone has built over the years.
"It's hard to generalize because it differs dramatically from individual to individual,” Park said. "But if someone is living as a post-op, male-to-female transsexual woman, who has significantly enhanced her levels of estrogen, then what advantages there are will be significantly diminished, if not, over time, eliminated."
While that might not be enough to open the doors to sports that are governed by speed and jumping ability, like basketball, soccer, track and field, volleyball and football, golf is the perfect place for sport to take its first step. In golf, the level of play between men and women is a lot more even than in these other sports. Speed and jumping are taken out of the equation. Even a certain lack of strength can be overcome with the right technique. As women have shown us in the last couple of years, they may not be able to win a men’s tournament yet, but they can compete in one.
Just think: While dozens or hundreds of men are injecting themselves with hormones to help improve their play in baseball, you have transgender females taking hormones to decrease their physical advantage.
And while many men are taking those steroids in a constant attempt to win that batting title or that elusive championship, the USGA need not worry about opening the flood gates.
"I can’t imagine we’ll see a lot of men rushing to have sex-assignment surgery so they can be champions on the women's tour,” Park said.
Or, as Outsports discussion-board member George_Twinsfan said, maybe Sergio Garcia has found the way for him to win a Major. Unless Danielle Swope stands in his way – she’s got to be even more hungry than he is.
In the Closet....Or Out?
June 18th, 2006 6:03 am MDT
So I told my mom. Finally. Was I nervous? Yah. Was I happy about it? Yah. So many mixed emotions led to this moment. Why did I wait? Have no Idea..after all I had told many people very early on in my life, including my dad. I told Syrissa after two dates.
So we sat down to lunch and she asked me what was going on were there any problems with Syrissa and I? No ma. Did I need money. Yes ma but who couldn't? Then I told her. She had some questions. I answered them. She said she always thought there was something. I said there was. She asked for how long I was like this. I pointed out I was born with no adam's apple so my theory was that this has a lot to do with genetics. (She did a double take at the adam's apple comment!)
She told me she loved me and always wanted me to be happy. I told her that being able to share with her makes me happy! Now that My mom knows part of me feels like it doesn't matter who else does because everyone who is important to me does know. And that's what counts! 
Roxy Rush- memoriam
May 13th, 2006 12:23 pm MDT
Hello, There are a bunch of you who have learned of Roxy's passing. I didn't know her for a long period, but considered her good friend. She was cherished by many and was such an energetic, creative person... If you knew her please share your thoughts.... Elena you are loved and our hearts go out to you.... Best, VJ
being out and about
March 26th, 2006 2:57 pm MST
So I've am going out alot more lateleyso much so that I 've ended up being sick from tooo much partying! ah well R&R will do me some good! At the same tiome I'm always looking for new people to hang out and experience life! so Drop me a line! VJ
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