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September 10th, 2008 8:46 am MDT

Transgender Murder, Safety and Dating
I really hate saying this, but it needs to be said...There
are many young transgender women who are not careful about dating guys.
They think that because they are young, pretty and passable they are
free to date as they wish. The truth of the matter is, we have to be
concerned with our safety the same as any other woman and even more.
Even genetic women have to be concerned with being raped, assaulted and
becoming victims of domestic violence. As a transgender woman
things can become even more riskier, especially if we are pre or
non-op. If we are found out men can get very upset, angry and often
very violent. No man likes being lied to, but even worse the "thought"
they have had sex with a person of the "same sex" and committed a
"homosexual act" can drive them to become very angry and often
resulting in brutal assault and even murder. Such is the case in the
murder of Angie Zapata. All the hate crimes legislation in the
world will do little to help us in this type of situation. I feel that
many transgender murders could be prevented if only they had been
upfront about their gender and screened their dates a little bit
better. Does this justify these gruesome murders, positively not, but
it is a very sad reality that may very well have been prevented with a
bit more caution and honesty.As a transexual woman I get many
requests for dates. Many of these hits are online and through social
networking sites such as myspace and facebook. Even though my profiles
are as transgender oriented, I get many hits from very straight men. My
very first reply to any person who hits on me is "I am a male to female
transexual woman and give a brief description of myself. This way no
one can say I lied to them or deceived them about my gender. Usually
the response back is a quick no thank you or no response at all.As
much as we all like to go "stealth", I feel it is very important to be
upfront about our transgender status. We need to be just as cautious as
any other genetic woman and even more. Lastly, we need to screen our
dates and know who we are dating.
 
from TGLynn's Place
http://tglynnsplace.blogspot.com/2008/07/transgender-murder-safety-and-dating.html