Bert Ram (phillyGent50)
"unemployed... drat!!!"
Journal Entries for Bert Ram (phillyGent50)
Tell me How...
May 8th, 2008 8:38 pm MDT
Ladies... sorry guys.... I am very curious about something an hope you can help. Over the last several months I have been floating arousn URNA, I have met some wonderful Girls, and had so great times.... BUT... I am really curious, how do I encourage your womanhood, with out involving sex? That may sound strange, but it seems like any relationship I have on lilne at URNA stumbles once sertain ... monents have been shared. Hey, I didn't say I don't like sex... but, there has to be more... As my shrotest Journal entry yet, I am hoping it will soon have a few comments to add on... Am I crazy... or just confused.. you tell me...
The Big M question…
February 6th, 2008 5:11 am MST
Many, many, years ago I was told… “Don’t ever ask, a girl if she is Married!” The Big “M” question was out-of-bounds. The woman who was instructing me, on proper chat room/ eMail etiquette had a logic that still stuck with me, even today. Why does a girl hang out in a chat room, or correspond with an online friend? ANSWER: She is bored, or lonely, or dissatisfied with half a dozen things in her life. OR, she is just there for some fun. The last thing she wants to reflect on in how unsatisfactory her personal relationships are… OR, (if she is in a committed relationship) how much she could be screwing up her life… whether that relationship is marriage, ‘significant other,’ boyfriend, girlfriend… whatever. THE BIG POINT IS… if it is important it will come out in the conversation, naturally and on its own. Comment: I have had long running conversations with girls and never knew their relationship status. We just had fun talking and flirting on-line. Why is the knowledge of person’s marital status important? ANSWER: The vast majority of On-line relationships are JUST that… On-line. I have seen websites with numbers of the romantic relationships, and wonder how many thousands were ‘served’ before Comment: Of the hundreds of girls (Generic, in Transition, or whatever) I have spoken to over the years, there are few I would really call friends. And fewer still I would trust meeting in person, face-to-face. Can something be sparked from an On-line romance? ANSWER: Rarely, but YES… It is like trying to predict the weather with a piece of ribbon. If the ribbon is wet it is raining. If the ribbon is flapping around it is windy. If the ribbon is shiny it is sunny. Why am I using this dumb analogy? Because I am saying you need to be observant. Don’t let fantasy, or yearning for sexual fulfillment guide your relationship… that will doom it to failure. Comment: I am not ‘free’ myself to explore this kind of romantic relationship, so I will NEVER offer more than cup of coffee, or a glass of wine. Nothing serious, nothing binding, and I try to make sure the girl knows that going in as well. I love to pretend, even more than most people, and this is why I don’t put boundaries on my conversations. So, don’t start out with the big ‘M’ question… as about my commitments, my relationships… BUT DON’T PUSH… it will come out in its own good time.
Men, Men, Men, Men, Manly, Men, Men, Men…
January 17th, 2008 5:37 am MST
*** The more I converse with the girls, and ladies, the more I realize how truly different we are how much it takes a REAL woman to enjoy a man, without compromising his manliness. Don’t stop reading now, or you will miss totally what I am saying. *** I know there a potential to be the most miss quoted, or quoted out of context. But, here goes… My need to express this has been on my mind for some time, but came up again the other night. She asked, “Why do you like us?” Which always takes me to why do you like men? We can be really disgusting. I personally am a clutter bug, and have to fight against turning my basement into a junkyard. But, that is what I am talking about… that is a manly thing. The Clutter is a mess in it self, but my Male soul wants to fix things. So, I pick up furniture, computers, clothing, etc. These are all things I can fix. Furniture may need minor repair, or is just plain dirty… “I can fix that.” Computers, if they are not to old, can be scavenged from and I can cobble new computers from the old parts… “I can fix that.” Clothes can be thrown out cause they dirty, or just plain old, I can wash them, examine them carefully, and pass them on to our local thrift store… “I can fix that.” *** Hopefully this will give you of the kinds of things men can find important. It is not just strapping on a man, and getting your jollies… there are machines for that sort of thing. Down deep a man likes to hunt… which can include freezing your ass off in drizzling rain, up is some tree trying to get ‘Bambi.’ But, the ‘hunt’ I am talking about is more elemental then that… and is why many of us are here…. Sex. Either real, or imagined men want to pursue. A butcher is happy is the meat is deliver to his doorstep. It is processed, and life goes on. A hunter wants to enjoy the pursuit as well as the capture. Which is what makes me want to run a hide when a conversation starts out discussing how unfulfilled the other person is, and home much they want to be filled??? *** I am not saying I never went “all the way in a chat conversation.” But, I am saying is it was a fun process of flirting, and exploring of personalities. How this relates to women is this… you need to be prepared… almost look forward to the pursuit… enjoy the attentions… heck everyone enjoys being desired. Women need to understand the full implications of my friends comment to me… “You are a guy… and guys will say anything get into a girls pants. But, that is ok.” Of course I have known this young lady for years, but the point is she acknowledged my desire for the ‘hunt’ and is cool with it… that to me is the MOST feminine thing that has ever been said to me.
“if-not-odd-peculiar” couple…
January 3rd, 2008 4:48 am MST
*** Something struck me yesterday that have been smoldering in the background for several days, and then came back to me full force with the a lovely young lady (thank you Jenny) last night. *** The original statement was “TG relationship rarely last.” And then last night discussing how often a SRS woman, would end up with another woman. As I lay in bed ponder these things this morning, my mind trip back to a show/ movie/ TV show entitled the “The Odd Couple.” If you have never heard of this before, you are missing something special. *** So, how to I get from Broadway to transgender relationships? The entertainment in the “Odd Couple” was always stormy. Felix, the almost femme character, was always getting upset with Oscar, the male-macho character, for making a mess, leaving out cigars, and beer cans. *** With a very WIDE stroke of the brush, I get to how would a transitioned woman, and an average guy (me, I suppose) ever how to maintain a living “Felix/Oscar” relationship with the added strain of sensual pleasure. Of course Felix by this time is Felcia dealing with body image and the rages of transition, and all the emotional and physical turmoil that brings... and Oscar is still the same beer drinking, cigar chomping, ass-grabbing slob he always was… It has got to be a stormy relationship (and yes it would make a great book). *** Some people are more capable of dealing with this sort of chaos, than others. Just look Moms who raise all boys! While most of us, are not so talented. Guys tend to be the hunter-gatherer-explorer types (wide stroke again her folks), while Gals tend to be the gatherer-organizer-producer of things. Men may build cities… but they build them for the Women in their life… *** It comes down to this… (As true a story as I can remember it) media is covering couple that has been together seventy (70) years, plus their courtship. The interview asks how they were ever able to stay married that long… and the answers were instantaneous (as much it could be at 90+). Her answer was simple, “He tells me he loves me, everyday.” His answer was very revealing to me, “She tells me how wonderful I am, everyday.” *** It sounds cute, and funny all at the same time… But, that is a relationship. How do we ever approach that sort of reality???
Attractions and Relations...
December 31st, 2007 5:25 am MST
-- Attractions and Relations... Having interacted with dozens of girl over the last week I am trying to get a handling on why it is SOOOOOOOooooooooooooooo attractive to me. I have read a few columns where others have espressed the same, and I may have found the answer... for me at least. *** -- Therfore... Now, I am not blaming my MOM, as some people might think... but it does go back to my parents on many levels. My Dad was practically an orphan, and didn't know how to be a man. My MOM, had a tough Irish mother and wasn't raised to be very femmenine.... Lack of emotional attachment from one, and a low feminine image from the other lead me to desire the ultra femme contact I find here. *** -- NSA... I would like to think 'NO Strings Attached' exists (NSA for you CraigsList folks), but there is always some attachent... yesterday a sweet young thing wanted to jump in the car and ... well you can guess the rest. That worries me... The girls I would actually consider meeting, or even talking to on the phone, I have had several conversations with... swapped eMails... etc. I don't think there is such a thing as NSA for me... which is why I am very careful about meeting. Sharing a coffee at Starbuck's is all I will commit to with anyone... because I am going to have at least one, or two string knotted up in there some where. *** -- Women... I love women... the look... the smell... the touch of a woman. But, keeping things in perspective is difficult. As I have tried to explain "I am not free." Glue any labels you want on that one... LTR's, Commitments, whatever... If you have suffered this far in my little note I hope you have a little better understanding about me. ***If you have not read it through... shame on you. HAHAHAH Maybe I will pour my guts out here in my Journal and help fix my self... NAHHH! I like flirting to much... If anyone want to talk to me about this stuff... you are more than free to eMail me...Take care... Bert...
Not to serious...
December 30th, 2007 8:17 am MST
Hello Ladies...</P>I thought I would add this entry to help you understand better where I am at, and how you might respond to me if you seen me in the chat room.</P>First of All...IF YOU ARE ALREADY HORNY, DO NOT PM ME! This sounds harsh, but about 50% of the contacts I get in the chat start with how excited they are an want me to fill certain openings with my manhood.... NOT COOL! If you aare that turened on ther are machines for that sort of thing... I am not a machine.</P>Second... which is related... I am here for fun, flirtation, friendship... that about sums it up. </P>Third... with the commitments in my life I need to be discreet. NOT that I wouldn't meet a girl in public... But, I am not looking for a long term relationship. I am looking for conversation. Like my opening line says... Life is a story, what is yours? I am an addict for a good story... and most ladies here are pretty darn fascinating...</P>Fourth... All this does not meam I do not get hot and bothered... I am a warm blooded male, with fantasies as well (or I probably would not be here). PLEASE, try to get to know me... I can be a fun guy...</P>Love to you all... Bert.. aka PhillyGent50
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