URNotAlone

Admirer My Ass

February 25th, 2008 8:27 pm MST

  As some of you know, I’ve spent a fair amount of time in the URNA chat rooms recently.  I’m really trying to get involved in the t-girl community and as a result I’ve met some really great people and made some new, wonderful friends.  I’ve met t-girls from Australia and admirers from Canada and all kinds of people from as close as my home town to the four corners of the earth.  Overall, it’s been an incredibly rewarding experience .......  However, there’s one aspect of all of this chatting that bothers me.  It’s the never-ending stream of guys who refer to themselves as “admirers” and reveal themselves to be anything but.  What they’re doing is wrong.  They’re bad for the girls and they’re bad for the real guys out there who are just trying to meet a nice t-girl to take home to Mom.  I’m not kidding about that either. ....... So let’s talk about admirers a little bit and how it all relates.  Webster’s defines “admirer” as “regarding with wonder, pleasure or approval”. ....... I think it’s important to talk about each of these individually before tying all of this together. ....... Wonder.  My life is met with wonderment every day.  I get emails and instant messages all the time from all kinds of people expressing an interest or curiosity in what my day to day existence – or my life – is like.  How did I get here?  What stage of transition am I at?  Am I taking hormones?  How do people treat me?  The list goes on and on – and every single “wondering” question is perfectly fine with me.  I’m blessed that you’re interested and I understand (to some degree) why you are.  It’s all good with me. ....... Pleasure.  Simply put, I love that people derive pleasure from talking to me, getting to know me or looking at me.  I’m a smart girl with an opinion and an exhibitionist / kinky outlook on things and quite frankly I get off knowing I’m desired.  When I set out on this road a few years ago I did it with one goal in mind – to be the type of girl I admired - sexy, sophisticated, smart, ironic, courageous and dirty when it mattered most.  Only the reader can determine if I’ve been successful in accomplishing all of those things, but I’m trying and will continue to try to meet those goals until they bury me in 4” heels.  If interacting with me in any way provides a form of pleasure for the other person, then that’s the highest compliment I can be given. ....... Approval.  This is where the issue begins and ends with me with regard to “admirers”.  There are certainly some who clearly approve of me, t-girls and the entire aspect of transgenderism.  I’ve met them, befriended them and even dated them.  Because they “approve”, they’re completely comfortable with everything I am and hope to be.  They’re “comfortable” with all of it and they look upon me (us) with wonder, pleasure and approval.  These are the true admirers and I’d like to thank them for their interest, understanding and desire to show t-girls how special we really are.  It means more to us than we could ever truly express in words. .......  However, it is here where other “admirers” reveal themselves to be genuinely disapproving assholes.  These are the guys (they’re always guys) who come to this site or go to the t-girl clubs with a predatory agenda of all-around shittyness.  Some are married, some are engaged, but more are simply scared.  They don’t approve of their own wonder and pleasure with regard to t-girls – it scares them -and because of it, they actually don’t approve of us at all. .......  These are the guys who troll the outside of clubs at 2AM looking for a quick blowjob.  They’re the ones inside the club who like to grab a girl when she walks by, in the hopes of getting a quick blowjob.  And they’re the ones in the chat room without a picture or a profile who want to “cyber” or meet for a quick blowjob. .......  These guys don’t approve of us and therefore they don’t approve of me.  They’re too “shy” (their words) to go into the club or to post their profile, but the reality is, they don’t approve of t-girls – and they are incredibly fearful of being spotted at the club or having their profile spotted by an associate of theirs because the associate would disapprove as well. .......   Of course, these guys don’t have the capacity or the balls to ask themselves what the associate was doing at the club or on the URNA web site in the first place – which I find staggeringly idiotic. .......  It is this blatant lack of approval that reveals most admirers to be nothing more than predators.  I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re ashamed of themselves after a t-girl encounter, taking extra time to wash and scrub their tiny balls so they can erase the memory of fucking our t-pussy from their minds forever – only to wake up the next morning with a hard-on just thinking about it. .......  It’s wrong and it’s sad and it makes you, the predator, a liar.  To me, lying to others is an unforgivable crime, bested only by lying to oneself.  If you like us so much, why fight it – and why be so indecent in the process?  What are you so afraid of that causes you to be such a prick?  .......  I have a news flash for you: society doesn’t care what turns you on, what you do or who you do it with.  I’ve gone a million places with a million different people and nobody treats me or those that I’m with any differently than anyone else.  That’s the irony of all of this … so much of this fear is unfounded.  .......  Guys, if you like us – then act it.  Be a gentleman at a club and get to know the girls.  You’ll get a hell of a lot further with us (and our friends because we talk about you) and you’ll be a hell of a lot happier in the long run.  In addition, post a profile like the real admirers here.  I guarantee you’ll find yourself with a lot more t-girl friends than you have now.  If you treat the girls with respect at a club or post a profile on URNA and the friends don’t follow, email me and I’ll make sure to introduce you around – it’s my pledge to those who are genuine.  .......  As for the true predators out there, the ones without the brains or the balls to act as a decent human being, leave me and the other girls here alone.  Go back to your lousy life and keep lying to yourself.  We didn’t ask to be a part of your inner turmoil and we’re not interested in your bullshit.  Run along, you’re not wanted here.  .......  Thanks for reading. .......  Xoxo ..Danielle