Rikki L Wood
Journal Entries for Rikki L Wood
An Open Letter to GG/SO's
March 5th, 2007 4:16 pm MST
So you have a spouse or partner who is a TG, (in this term I include CD/TS/TG/TV), or you are thinking of starting a relationship with one. So what kind of person have you gotten, or about to get, yourself attached to. Well, in a TG, you are getting someone who has an above average IQ and is kind, considerate and understanding. She loves to nurture her children and while she may not like housekeeping, and who does, she will do her share. She will listen to you and be compassionate. She may not always instigate sexual relations, because she too needs to feel desireable and wanted, but she will be there for you. You may be upset, or confused because of her lifestyle, or because she may have kept this from you, but the fact that she has related this to you, means that you are very special to her. This is something very hard to disclose in today's world, that she may have been living in denial herself. You may wonder if she is gay, or may leave you, but her sexual orientation has probably never changed, and if she was to leave you because of this, she would have done it, without ever confiding in you. Your acceptance and respect mean a lot to her. If you can get past the label that you may appear to be a lesbian, once you have accepted her, she will be like your best friend. She will go shopping with you, sometimes for the same types of clothes. She will be understanding when you complain and will cry with you when you are sad. So enjoy your time that you have with your TG person. Treat her like a sister, like a girlfriend and like a lover. Show her how to do her makeup properly, as you have had more practise than she has. Show her how to do her hair, if she has any, or help her buy a wig that will complement the shape of her face and her colour. Help her buy clothes that will flatter her and/or make her look hot. She will appreciate and probably respects, your input and observations. But remember, she may go through changes as she discovers who she is. This has been hidden in her for a very long time, and she may not be sure what kind of look she wants. And when she finds it, she may want to change it as she ages. How many hairstyles and wardrobe changes have you gone through in your lifetime? You must remain flexible and help her adapt to the times as they change. Be there to listen to her and to help her understand her feelings. There are many options for her, and she doesn't know where to start or where it will take her. Ask questions and help her find the anwers she needs. But most of all, be her friend. At this stage of her life, she may lose some that she has, and she may feel alone and depressed. If you can do all this, you will have the best friend a person can ever ask for.
Where are the books?
February 24th, 2007 3:11 pm MST
I went to the biggest bookstore in the city looking for books on CD/TG/TS, and quess what I found? Nothing. I looked in the psychology section, because you know, we are all sickos. Nothing there. Hmmm. How about the sexology section, because you know, we are perverts? Still nothing, but wait, what is this little sign I see? "For Gay and Lesbian books, look in the Gay and Lesbian section". Okay, everybody knows only gays become CD's, so maybe that is where they put the books. So off I go to look for the G&L section, but where is it? Looking, looking, looking in every section of the store. Of course it won't be in the main aisle or anywhere near there. Oh, there it is. Okay, I am now looking for "My husband Betty". Up, down, every shelf. Nothing. Where is "Betty" and even "Alice in Genderland"? I know they have them, because I saw them on their website. Okay, I'll look again. What's this? Here is a book that says it is a humourous story about a young man who grew in a red-neck community and was discovered wearing women's clothes. But is he CD or TS? Or is he gay? The sleeve does not say, but seeing that he was wearing male clothes on the cover, I would assume that he is probably not CD. So where are the books? I was in the second biggest store in the city a few weeks prior to this, and they did not have the books either. But both stores have both these books, and then some, on their websites. Oh, I get it. They have the books, but they keep them in the closet, just like we have to stay in the closet. Heaven forbid anybody should see a book that talks about this kind of stuff in public. Goodnes knows, we do not belong in public either. Well, I did get a copy of "Betty" from their website, and I am enjoying in tremendously, but I was not too happy to see that in this day and age, we are not to be seen in public, even if it just a book. So if you are looking for a particular book on CD/TG/TS/TV, do not vist a bookstore, because they don't have any. Disclaimer: The above events are true, but please be aware that the sarcasm runs deep and do not get offended at the labels I have used. I enjoy my femme self a lot, but I wish the world was truly ready to accept us. Take care. Luv, Rikki
New Year, New Photos
January 1st, 2007 6:52 pm MST
It is January 1, 2007 and I thought it was time to take some pictures of myself and post them for all of you to see. I hope you enjoy them as much as I enjoyed taking them. Have yourself a good and prosperous new year and hope that 2007 brings you peace, joy and health.Love,Rikki
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