URNotAlone

Do You Really Think So

June 11th, 2007 11:35 pm MDT

Just because a guy tells you that you're stunning or gorgeous or any other compliment, and ladies I hear it a lot. I'll leave it to you to decide if it's true. Take compliments and sweet talk for what it is. Seduction.

Whenever I go out I dress to impress. Some have commented that I must spend a fortune on clothes. I have spent quite allot over the years and I think it has been worth every penny. I'm not a jeans and t-shirt kinda gal, give me a satin blouse any day. Don't be confused I love to hear silky sweet confessions of attraction. Weather it's true or not is anybody's guess. Attraction is different for everybody some like tall, short, petite, rubenesque, whatever.

As always this is to illustrate the larger point. Those of you who know me know how I dress and what my personal style is. Keep that in mind since I haven't one. Did I lose you? Well that's ok since I am at a loss on this one too.

Whenever I go out there are always plenty of men who want to spend time with me, make time with me, or who knows what else. As a woman I understand the needs that men have perhaps more than they do. Some start out slow and gradually escalate their advance, which is the wise route. Most just wander up tell me how "hot" I am and expect, oh yes they expect me to fall to my knees right there. One time a guy walked up behind me saying "do you remember me" and starts feeling me up. Needless to say I remembered him and also remembered why I ran him off the first time we met. Well honey seduction does not work that way nor should it ever. Is it any wonder why these kinda people are alone.

Like most women some days I'm a princess and sometimes I'm a slut but you can never be both at the same time. In every girls life there comes a time when she discovers boys and it can be richly rewarding or painfully troubling. As my essays go this will be a short tale of one such meeting. This weekend I met a very sweet guy. He is cute, single, well spoken, and confident.

Each is a very good indicator of character. He knew what to do and what to say and my heart was melting. I probably would have gone home with him until he floored me by asking me out later in the week. When a man would rather wait until after dawn to get to know you he is worth taking a chance on. He asked for my number and I gave it to him, something I very rarely do. He said he would call and he did. I was so surprised when he called I was speechless. I really was. I thought he would just blow me off and not even keep such a small promise but he did and that says a lot.

Ladies this is how you weed out the schleps. He spoke to me like a princess and I expect at some point he will want a slut. I'll be happy to cater to that desire should it arise. I don't know how much he makes or if he is .....well you know... but I can find that out later. Honestly I don't really care. If he is respectful and good to me that is what is really important. It goes with out saying that he needs to call again and not screw it up later with excuses and false bravado.

Every girl wants her man to seduce her, to possess her, and make her his own. Unfortunately not every guy knows how. When the men open up to you it's okay to lead him a little and let him know you're interested. In our case don't expect to much or be crushed when he makes you wait or gives up early. He may have his own issues to deal with. Special girls like us need to be handled differently and there are quite a few additional things to consider. I'm not really sure if he'll keep our date or lose interest but the thrill is in the hunt not in the kill. I plan on going out with him and seeing where it leads.

As usual I'm agonizing over it. What should I wear, should I be coy and demure or aloof. My god, do I need new shoes to go out with him. Will it be someplace nice or sleazy. Arrghhh. This girls is the agony of boys. I know he likes me, but did I screw it up? Oh the exquisite agony and thrill of a first date. So will he or won't he? who knows.... Everyone thinks he'll call and I do too but I keep asking anyway....... Do you really think so.