URNotAlone

One Size Fits None

September 27th, 2007 4:14 pm MDT

Recently I went into a wonderful little sex shop that I frequent. I usually go there for shoes and the occasional accessory but this time I saw and outfit I just had to have. A very sexy little pink dress that according to the tag should have fit. Sadly it did not. It might have fit a 14 year old, but it certainly would not fit and adult woman.

Like most women there is a delicious amount of plumpness to our rear and for some our thighs as well. This brings me to a trend I have seen in many catalogs and stores. In order to be "In Style" you need to be 12 years old have no chest no hips and no junk in your trunk. The aforementioned is assuming your a plus size girl. Is it so hard for a designer to actually measure an average girl and deduce that she is not built like a model?

It gets even better when the retail shop changes the size on the garment to a smaller one to "help" with self esteem. If a little tag on your blouse is the sole benefactor of your self image then you need more help than Macys can provide. Even on the best of sale days. The outfit you just bought now has to be returned or exchanged for something you don't want. If you know what your measurements are like I do this is a real waste of time.

It amazes me that a designer in New York will put something together and hang it on a model be lauded with accolades and then cross his fingers and hope nobody will buy it. If they do it will be readily apparent that their adult body with all it's flaws could not ever hope to get it on. Some of us have the waifish model figure but most do not. Genetics has a lot of control over how we end up, tall, short, whatever.

Most models have absolutely no figure at all. This fly's in the face of the average girl who might be a little heavy or is blessed with an ample bosom. Most women are a C with the occasional D cup. Interestingly enough when a girl gets implants she goes with the D or bigger yet blouses are still made to fit smaller girls.

I am a DD so I just buy the larger blouses and have them tailored to fit. For a few extra dollars my wardrobe has a tailored/fitted look. The best part is my clothes fit the way they should. This works most of the time but there are times when the larger size is just not available. So how do we overcome this? The simple answer is we don't. What we do is learn how to dress. If it isn't in your size just pass it by and look for what is.

It's not hard to develop your look or your style if you know what works for you. Do your homework. Watch the fashion shows. Ask other girls how they got their look or where they shop. All of us want to look good and feel good. That all starts from within and shows on the outside. Some days no matter what I do with my hair it's a mess but that's okay. Even I need to lose a few pounds and that's ok too.

As women we love attention!! The shear joy I feel when someone tells me how good I look is nearly indescribable. I look forward to being stared at. I want to be looked at, lusted for and admired for how much effort I take in preparing for a night out alone or with a date. All the boys complain that we take to long getting ready but if you can't obsess over how good you will look then why go out at all.

Each of us is unique. We all bring something to the table and can share what we know. With all of the hard work and effort we girls put into looking our best is it really any wonder that we might have an off day. There's nothing wrong with that. Nobody bats a thousand and you shouldn't think you can. Some day your going to be fabulous and others...... well just keep trying.

Find colors that work for you, not against you. Don't be afraid to mix and match things and you may be surprised with what you come up with. The goal is to take your time and learn to do it right. When you have the basics down everything else just falls into place. Focus on where you need improving and learn how to pull that together. Don't get discouraged by the small mistakes we all make.

I used to do my own nails and now I get them done professionally. I did a good job but the difference in my demeanor is tremendous. I used to worry they would break off and they did sometimes so I changed what I was doing and am happier for it. When I get my nails done I'm in there for a few hours and it's so worth it when I see the results. Such a small thing has done wonders for my overall image and look.

I feel more relaxed and it shows. I'm not self conscious about them breaking off at "the wrong time" if you know what I mean. Imagine how you'll feel when you do something like that. Just a little nudge is all it takes. Go for a walk one day a week. do something small to start with and before you know it you will be the girl of your dreams. Whatever it is just do it, take that little step toward your goal. Put the time In and you will get there.

Just remember One Size Fits None.....