URNotAlone

Do you see me in a bad light?

February 11th, 2008 6:26 pm MST

Yesterday while talking with some friends I had a thought. I let it go and went back to doing what girls do and it kept nagging at me. So I went on a quest of sorts. I started looking at photos all over the web. I even looked at some porn, can you believe it sweet little ol me intently eying some big boobed blond getting ....her makeup, ahem...fixed if you know what I mean.

Well there I was comparing some of the photos and I realized it was true. The difference between "porn" and "erotica" IS all in the lighting.

Now what you may ask oh curious reader does this have to do whith my nagging thought. Well hold on girls here it comes....turn the damn lights on. Every girlfriend I have, and most women I know including yours truly have something we hate about our bodies. That one thing that if it changed would make us "perfect".

That still doesn't fit because if it's dark you can't see the pink teddy or how big your but does look. The vast majority of photo's I looked at were done so poorly that it's no wonder we think we have major flaws. Girls I am not perfect, you know it and I know it. I do try very hard to take good pictures though. It's all in the lighting and location.

How many times have you thought gee that sure is out of focus or where is she, a tunnel? I know we can't always plan every shot or pose to maximize our curves and that's ok. We can however work to project the best possible image with the public at large.

I tag all my photo's that go online and each is checked to make sure it is the best it can be. That's why I have so few out there. Think about it like this; if somebody only saw you for an instant would you rather have your hair done or in curlers?

I hope the answer is obvious. So why then do so many girls put a picture of themselves up with their ex boyfriends face cut out? Why so many blurry fuzzy webcam shots? Why would you want the whole world to see the pile of dirty clothes laying next to your bed? It beats me.

In this day and age it is easy to find tips on lighting and exposure and all the things you need to take a good photo. Get out there girls and do more that just your hair, really make yourselves gorgeous! I know you can! I have seen it. Some of you make me so jealous because you look so good.

And enough of the old bed sheet's how tacky is that. Whatever you reason for posting a picture, think about the light you will be seen in. Ask yourself does this REALLY project the image of class and grace I want? Recently I was in a weekly and I was mortified when I saw my picture. I was so furious at how bad an image I had. Get your mind out of the gutter, it wasn't playboy...YET.

Anyway, my hair was a mess it was over lit and I looked like a waterbuffalo;  OMG! Do I really want this to be my hallmark? NO! This brings me back to my overall tip for..... whenever. When you snap that picture before you send it out here does it capture how fabulous you are?

Or does it show you in a bad light?