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"just got home from WHISTLER. MAY THE Paralympics go off without a hitch! You are all winners in my mind! But on another note, anyone for coffee this week?"
"just got home from WHISTLER. MAY THE Paralympics go off without a hitch! You are all winners in my mind! But on another note, anyone for coffee this week?"
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It's Nice to Have Girlfriends
Dianne Williams March 5th, 2010 8:44 am MSTHad lunch and went shopping with Tiana yesterday. She is so sweet and genuine. It's not often you can find a girlfriend with such different experiences to whom you can relate so well emotionally. Of course, I could just die to have a petite figure like hers. All the really cute clothes are made in her size. I'm just thankful that some of the younger girls are as statuesque as they are...perhaps that will be my salvation.
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Dressing for pleasure-Shopping
Teresa Bowers March 2nd, 2010 12:19 pm MSTI know some of the examples I chose for my series on different type of dresses were way too expensive for most people, including me. So I wanted to show you some great buys for under $100. All of these are from Nordstrom and can also be ordered online and picked up at the store. If you’re really a coward you can have them shipped to your house, apartment, or closet.
This is a Maggy London, Print Matte Jersey Shift Dress. It has 3/4 length sleeves, very cool colors, and its $98.
This next one is a Donna Morgan, Printed Shift Dress. Also $98. This is very cute with a floral print and there is even a video to help you find your size. Some of these dresses do come in small sizes, so if you can’t find something in your size move on.
Now this one I think you’ll really like. Its a Girly 50’s style, Floral Printed Dress. It has ruffled trim along the neck, and sweet puffed sleeves. This one is $88.
Still over budget? How about this adorable Velvet Torch, Ruffled Lace Dress! Its a sheath dress with feminine ruffles and lace, and its only $44.
Now, the thing about most of these is that they have to be dry cleaned. That and the fact that they are made for Kate Moss type models so your size might not be available.
I just want you to know that for $25-$100 there are plenty of dresses out there that are comfortable, will fit you, and can be washed in the machine with your fishing and hunting gear if necessary. Be prepared to smell like tuna, turkey, or deer meat (heaven forbid!) if you are too lazy to separate.
Other great places to try are Walmart, JC Penny, Sears, Target, and Burlington Coat Factory if there’s one near you. The first few places you can order online, and Burlington doesn’t seem to care much about your personal life as long as you spend money. I’m told they are very cross dresser friendly, but don’t expect a complete show. If they help you find your size, and don’t scream like someone from a horror movie that should be enough.
I’m just kidding, they very rarely scream like that!
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K wires removed today!
Veronica Sue Winger February 17th, 2010 1:46 pm MSTMy outpatient surgery to remove 4 K wires from my right hand went well today. I should have my hand all back in another 2-4 weeks, so only the medical bills will remain from my ski accident in France.
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Why I dress
Nicole / Nikki February 14th, 2010 8:36 pm MSTWhy I dress
Like so many tgirls, I really admire women and femininity. I love the female form in so many ways. I love the way a woman looks, they way they're shaped, the way they feel, the way they behave... and of course the scent of a woman too. Hoo-ahhh!
Throughout history, artists have shrived to capture the female for through various artistic media: Painting, sculpture, theater, etc...
Dressing is the medium I choose. My body is my canvas. There are certain physical limitations to work around, but that is no different than a painter trying to create a three dimensional image on a two dimensional surface, or the sculptor whose three dimensional creation will never encompass the dimension of their work being animated.
Dressing as a woman is a creative and expressive outlet for me. I can seek to emulate any style I desire. Doing makeup is something I particularly enjoy since it encompasses artistry, illusion, perception, style, and mood.
Photography is another aspect of dressing I really enjoy. Posing for the camera is fun and brings a true and sincere smile to my face. I feel that posing embodies just as much of the female form as the physical construct itself. The actual picture though represents the striving to capture part of those moments in a keepsake. Although a photograph of a performance such as a by a musician is merely shadow of the artist's efforts, enough of dressing is visual that photography is perfectly suited capture that aspect of it.
The artist Henri Matisse said that he liked to paint people because it made it easy for him to express his feelings about life. He especially liked to paint women, because he said they held the answer to the mystery of life.
I haven't found any answers to the mystery of life through dressing, but I have found a wonderful way to express part of the beauty I see in life everyday I walk this Earth.
-Nicole
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URNA Welcome
Nicole / Nikki February 12th, 2010 6:42 pm MSTHi, I wanted to say thank you to everyone for such a warm welcome to this website. I received so many nice letters and comments and I wanted to let everyone know that I appreciate them very much :) Hugs! -Nicole[1 comment]
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Shelly Kelly February 9th, 2010 6:18 am MSTFor all of us... and our insecurities: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oCTMcbQ1QE&feature=related[Comment on this post]
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Sakura The Cutie January 21st, 2010 6:29 pm MST[2 comments]
Second Life
Sakura The Cutie January 16th, 2010 6:49 pm MSTHey everyone, I was just wondering if any of my gurl friends play the computer game, Second Life. I used to play it a long time ago but I was wondering if any of new friends play it. If you don't and are curious about it, its a free game you just download. www.secondlife.com if you do play, just email or chat to me ^_^ XXXSakuraXXX[1 comment]
dressing
Sakura The Cutie January 15th, 2010 11:48 am MSTHey everyone, I think I already made a journal entry about it, but I had a great awesome chance to dress but just had the feeling of ugh, I dont want to dress. I know lots of crossdressers have periods were they don't want to dress, but still I never ever get the chance to dress, this is a great opportunity for me.[Comment on this post]
Ski Accident
Veronica Sue Winger January 14th, 2010 5:25 am MSTHappy New Year! I had a ski accident at Cote 2000 on 29Dec09 while vacationing in France. I broke a bone in my hand which required surgery and a cast, cracked two ribs, punctured a lung, and bruised all over my back. I am finally home in Dallas and recovering nicely, but this really dampers my femme plans for this year. I oddly thought a lot about dressing while I was in the hospital. One of my cats died while I was away too, which was unexpected, and management decided to pull one of my long held qualifications at work (though I didn't use it much). I am hopeful for a better new year though.[1 comment]
Sissy Permit and License
Teresa Bowers January 9th, 2010 7:42 am MSTWhy do I need a sissy license Miss Teresa?
Download you sissy permit, fill in your name with a pink pen, marker, or crayon, and start practicing. Just imagine how proud you'll be when you show your new, laminated license to the boys at the barber shop!
AND LEARN THE SONG!
I just love sissies!
Download your sissy permit now!
Download the sissy pledge now!
UPDATE: Due to complications, there will be no obstacle course, beauty contest, or talent competition at this time. And there is no test or training required. Licenses can be printed out and used with reckless abandon. If you really need help filling it out and adding your picture, send me your info and I'll make you one.
Run wild sissies-run free!
Print the one that looks best on your computer.
A standard Drivers License is 3 3/8" x 2 1/8"
License size: 246 x 161 pixels
License size: 500 x 327 pixels
License size: 85 x 54 millimeters
or
Download the PSD file
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MY NEW CLIPS SITE IS UP AND OH SO FINE!!!
Divinyl January 7th, 2010 9:33 pm MSTNOW YOU CAN PICK AND CHOOSE THE CONTENT YOU WANT TO BUY AND OWN. NO MORE KEEPING UP MEMBERSHIP IN MY SITE IF THAT IS NOT YOUR CUP OF TEA!
NEW CLIPS ADDED WEEKLY SO CHECK BACK OFTEN.
SIMPLY THE BEST AND HOTTEST TRANSGENDERED STORE IN THE CLIPS4SALE UNIVERSE!
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Photoshop
Sakura The Cutie January 5th, 2010 10:17 pm MSTHad some fun with photoshop today, I download a free trial. I never used the program before so I was just messing with it. Tell me what ya think of it
This is the original picture: http://www.cosplay.com/photo/275473/ (credit goes to this)
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Go Ask Teresa-Privacy
Teresa Bowers January 4th, 2010 10:13 am MSTI want you to know that although I sometimes joke about this, I do realize that a fetish is a very private thing. And I am fully aware that being a cross dresser is far from easy. Marriages are destroyed, lives are sometimes torn apart, alcohol and drugs are often used to try to cope, and suicides are sometimes the result of a unbearable conflict.
My goal when starting my website, was to try to help people feel better about themselves, and their lifestyle. I thought that if I could provide a simple way for you to enjoy your fantasy, such as an audio story, it just might make it easier to deal with your conflicts and confusion, and maybe explore it further.
I like to think I have helped at least some people, and I hope that I can help more. This is why I may seem different to you. I do understand, and honestly care about people. I try to keep things light and strap-on some humor whenever possible.
I also want you to know that I never share any personal information, pictures, or stories without permission, and the people who know me will tell you that. I'm sure there are many of you that have thought about doing a personalized story, but were afraid to share such an intimate part of yourself, and that's fine.
I hope you are enjoying my stories, rants, and attempts at comedy, and I'd like to thank you for cuming. (Oops)
To quote my old friend Tony, who is no longer with us, “It's a good life if you don't weaken.”
To be honest I'm not sure exactly what he meant, but I think of him often.
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Crossdresser Porn?
Teresa Bowers December 30th, 2009 8:58 am MSTMy friend Michael came over yesterday to visit and walked in with my mail.
“LOOK-The new Victoria’s Secret catalog is here!”, he announced like a kid with a toy.
“That’s good honey, why don’t we go the mall today? It is Take A Sissy Shopping day ya know?”
“Oh I’m not really ready right now, thank you anyway. Can I have this?”
“Sure you can have it, why don’t we look at it together, and I’ll tell you what I think would look good on you, would you like that?”
He looked like he just won the lottery, and smiled and nodded, giggling a bit as we sat down on the couch.
I remember all the guys that told me that these catalogs are like porn to them. From sneaking into the old Sears catalog as kids, to the Sunday circulars with lingerie and women’s clothing ads. They told me that they would much rather have a lingerie catalog like this than any men’s magazine in the world. And I understood.
As we were looking at all the pretty bras and panties, and the beautiful models, my first thought was that I really didn’t need anything new right now, but I still liked to shop. And my next thought was that I too liked to look at gorgeous women in their underwear! The big difference was that I didn’t have to hide it like they do, and that I was more attracted to the women than their clothes.
I suddenly felt a little bad for my cross dressing friend, and all the difficulties he must face having this fetish. But as we looked through the catalog, and discussed his favorite panties, he went into girl mode and it was as if he was in another world. If this is all it takes to make someone happy, I thought, then he can have all the catalogs and lingerie he wants!
Life can be so simple-yet so complex.
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Anna Nicolle Ripa December 25th, 2009 12:42 am MSThappy holidays and a special kiss to all those lonely CDs around the world
I wish a sexy , sensual , happy 2010 all
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Movies I'd like to make...
Teresa Bowers December 21st, 2009 7:09 am MST[Comment on this post]
Go Ask Teresa-Mothers
Teresa Bowers December 21st, 2009 7:07 am MSTJ: Dear Miss Teresa, I'd like to know how the Mother fits in to all of this. What in your experience is the connection?
J: Do you think that crossdressing is a variation on the Oedipus complex?
J: I mean, so many stories have to do with being caught by Mom, and then dressed as one of her girls. And I think that most crossdressers began by dressing in their Mother's clothes. Also, it seems to be a very common fantasy to be shipped off to girls school or a relative like an Aunt. Do you think this is a substitute for the Mother figure?
J: I think this is a very important issue, and has a lot to do with the incredible guilt that so many people deal with, don't you?
“In “normal” development, the Oedipus complex is resolved. The son now identifies with the father; he no longer views him as a rival. The son develops affection for, not libidinal attraction to the mother. The sexual libido directed toward the mother is sublimated and becomes non-sexual affection. The son seeks a female (sexual) partner other than the mother. Libidinal attachment to the mother is SUBLIMATED into sexual attraction for other women (substitutes).” Sigmund Freud-Dissolution of the Oedipal Complex
Right, well what does that mean? He used to do a lot of blow so its hard to follow. Basically it means nothing, its just a theory. A theory is a guess. So what I am going to say is more or less my theory, my guess, and my opinion.
This is a hypothetical case, I know that not all crossdressers get sexually aroused from it, or have fantasies about forced feminization and humiliation.
I think that sex is one of the most confusing things in our lives. For some it comes easy (excuse the pun), but for others it takes a lifetime to figure out. For a crossdresser the feeling of first putting on women's clothes, say a pair of panties, is a highly erotic and pleasurable experience. Soon afterwards it becomes a confusing and anxiety producing compulsion, that cannot be denied or ignored. He continues to dress up despite more and more stress and guilt.
As he reaches adolescence and begins to masturbate, his confusion is multiplied. Not only is he wearing female underwear, but he is often fantasizing about being feminized by women, and sometimes it may be his Mother. My guess is that to avoid this guilt of being aroused while thinking about her, he begins to substitute others in her role. A neighbor, the girls at school, a relative, or maybe all of them at a large party.
So to makes things more complicated, he now has a fetish to wear women's clothes, he has fantasies about being dominated, feminized, and humiliated, and he has little if any desire for a normal sexual relationship with a woman. In a nutshell, he's a mess!
Should I go on?
J: Is it too late to talk about cheese?
J: Actually Miss Teresa, everything you've said is right on the money. I don't know how you could possibly know all this, but this is exactly what I went through. Exactly!
J: I'm going to call my Mom.
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Pandora de Pledge
Victoria Vaughn December 11th, 2009 1:06 am MSTThe amazing woman that named me and did my first transformation, has recently passed away. She was a wonder and well known to a large number of people in the trans community in England. Many of the pictures of me that you see are the product of her hand. I will miss her and hope that if you are in London any time soon and want a transformation, you will go and support the company she began years ago.
http://www.pandoradepledge.com/index.htm
Rest in peace Pandora. You will be missed.
V
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Conservative men in conservative dresses
Victoria Vaughn December 7th, 2009 12:11 am MSTConservative men in conservative dresses
Atlantic Monthly
Amy Bloom
(Edited)
The world of cross-dressers is for the most part a world of traditional men, traditional marriages, and truths turned inside out.
Heterosexual cross-dressers bother almost everyone. Gay people regard them with disdain or affectionate incomprehension, something warmer than tolerance but not much. Transsexuals regard them as men "settling" for cross-dressing because they don't have the courage to act on their transsexual longing, or else as closeted and so homophobic that they prefer wearing a dress to facing their desire for another man. Other straight men tend to find them funny or sad, and some find them enraging. The only people on whose kindness and sympathy cross dressers can rely, are women: their wives and, even more dependably, their hairdressers, their salespeople, their photographers and makeup artists, their electrolysists, their therapists, and their friends.
Drag queens make sense to most of us. They represent congruence of sexual orientation, appearance, and temperament-feminine gay men dressing as women for a career, like RuPaul, or, less lucratively, for prostitution, or to express their sense of theater and femininity. (Barney Frank as a drag queen makes no more sense, intuitively, than Dick Cheney as one.) Actors whose most famous performance is as a female-from Barry Humphries, with his brilliant and textured Dame Edna, to Flip Wilson, with his one-note gag of Geraldine-don't puzzle us. Tootsie and Mrs. Doubtfire and the boys in Some Like It Hot don't puzzle us; they're just men doing what they have to do to survive, learning a nice lesson about the travails of womanhood, and giving one on the benign uses of masculine self-esteem. Even the cross-dressing women of history, women from many countries and every century since the ancient Greeks-from Joan of Arc to Pope Joan to America's jazz-playing Billy Tipton, to Disney's adorable Mulan-don't puzzle us, they chose to live as men because they couldn't otherwise have the lives they wanted.
Heterosexual cross-dressers-straight men who have not only a wish but a need to wear women's clothes and accessories-manage to be marginal among heterosexual men, marginal among other men who wear women's clothes, marginal in the community of sexual minorities, and completely acceptable only to fetishists, who take anyone who claims to belong. Gay men do not say, "Oh, you're a straight man who likes to wear a dress? Welcome aboard" Straight men do not say, "Well, except for the dress thing, you're just like me. Howdy, partner" Even in Provincetown, Massachusetts, where cross-dressers hold their annual fall Fantasia Fair, few of the residents, gay or straight, seem to recognize these men as people with whom they have a lot in common.
Many heterosexual cross-dressers never come out of the closet, not even to their wives. Others tell their wives after ten or twenty or thirty years of marriage, sometimes because they've been caught wearing their wives' clothes, sometimes because the clothes have been discovered. the revelation that a man himself is the "other woman" is a staple of cross dresser histories.) Heterosexual cross-dressers often spend their whole adult lives ordering size 20 cocktail dresses from catalogues and dressing in secret, with only the mirror for company. But lots of these men, driven by loneliness, by unmet narcissistic needs (all dressed up and nowhere to go), by risk-taking impulses (it's not hard to grasp that a forty-five-year-old 240-pound former Marine strolling through the Mall of America in full drag is consciously courting risk), want to cross-dress outside their bedrooms. Engineers, accountants, truck drivers and computer programmers, disproportionately represented among the retired military, predominately Christian and conservative (far more moderate Republicans than liberal Democrats), these men go to get-togethers in Kansas City, in Pittsburgh, in Seattle, all over America. They make forays into malls in pairs, and they go to tolerant gay bars in small groups. They browse in the Belladonna Plus Size Shop of Beverly, Massachusetts, and they hang out at Cross/Cross Consultants, of Houston, which offers special package rates for shopping, a makeover, and dinner at a restaurant; To weekly or monthly meetings, of six or ten or twenty guys, in Nashua, New Hampshire, and Trenton, New Jersey, in Springfield, Missouri, and Water Mill, New York, and throughout the Bible Belt. Arizona has enough cross-dressers to support chapters in both Phoenix and Tucson. A man who cross dresses and needs to be seen can go to conferences like Fantasia Fair and Fall Harvest, or take trips on any number of cruise lines that happily host groups of cross-dressers and their spouses amid a thousand other guests sailing to Catalina and other destinations.
Sometimes the wives wish to come, to support their husbands and to enjoy the trip, or to hang out with other wives, like golf widows or wives in Al-Anon. Some come because their husbands need them to. "I don't mind, but really, if he could learn to do his makeup properly and fasten his own bra, I'd rather stay home" one woman told me who later called to say that she had bought her husband a video guide to makeup for men and a magnifying mirror, and said she was resigning as his dresser. "He can ask one of the other guys to hook his bra,' Happy wives are everyone's favorites, enthusiastic or grimly accepting, at these functions they are simultaneously objects of much public appreciation and utterly secondary to the men's business.
Reliable statistics about the number of heterosexual cross-dressers don't seem
to exist In the fall of 2000 I spent several weeks trying to pin down that number. I checked with Jane Ellen and Frances Fairfax, of Tri-Eess, the Society for the Second Self, "an international support and social organization for Heterosexual Cross dressers, their spouses, partners, children and friends" "Maybe three or four million" Jane Ellen hazarded. "Maybe somewhere between three and five percent of the adult [male] population. People who claim it's more- I think that's just, you know, a minority wanting to be bigger than it is. And people who say more like one or two percent-I think those are the ones who are ashamed." When I asked Ray Blanchard (head of clinical sexology services at Canada's Centre for Addiction and Mental Health) for an estimate, he agreed that three to five percent sounded about right. There are really only two points of agreement between Blanchard and the Fairfaxes: that no one knows how many heterosexual cross-dressers there are, and that all these men in dresses who assert that they are straight, sometimes to the point of annoyance, are straight.
Tri-Ess was founded in 1976, as a melding of several cross-dressing groups, including the historic Hose and Heels Club, which began meeting in Califonia, in 1961, and which is to many cross-dressers what Stonewall is to gay men: the beginning of the end of shame (although not, for the cross-dressers, the end of fiercely preserved anonymity).
Jane Ellen is a man with a mission: to save cross dressers from their worst selves and to preserve their marriages. A central tenet of TriEss is that cross-dressing is a gift-that wearing women's clothes is both relaxing and expressive of a feminine self that is nurturing and gentle-and that it can enhance any marriage if the wife is wise enough to appreciate it and strong enough to corral what can be, as Jane Ellen admits, a narcissistic, self-indulgent habit. In the words of "Do You Know Someone Who Is a Cross dresser?"
Most [cross-dressers] are ordinary men who have discovered a feminine aspect to their personalities, and desire to transcend the narrow stereotypes mandated by conventional society. Happy in their masculinity, they have simply discovered a feminine gender " gift" and decided to explore it ... There is within each man a set of personality potentials that are part of his birthright, but that society labels as "feminine" and says he should suppress. Cross dressers have made contact with these potentials and found their _expression fulfilling. Integrating these into their whole personalities, cross dressers are able to smooth off some of the macho rough edges programmed by their upbringing. The result is a healthier whole person.
Once a wife or partner realizes her mate isn't leaving her for another man or for a new life as a woman, or taking risks that could destroy their financial and family life, the two of them can seek a balanced solution ... Many of the traits that attracted her in the first place-sensitivity, kindness, appreciation of beauty, etc.-can now be seen as belonging to that "woman within"
Cross-dressing is an attempt to resolve an internal conflict, and it's not about fabric. If we had clothing for men and women that was identical in every way except men wore shirts with four buttons and women had shirts with five, cross-dressers would want more than anything to have the shirt with five. We don't know why". Our categories and descriptions are so narrow and self-protective that we don't have words for the drive to cross dress, we don't have any language to describe the mixture of attraction and envy that often leads these men to have sex with women while thinking of themselves as male lesbians.
What is a Cross dresser?
An individual, usually heterosexual, who desires and needs to dress in the clothing of the opposite sex at different times throughout his or her life. This compulsive behavior generally starts young and the individual struggles alone for many years with this closeted need. Cross dressing is not a sickness, but represents a person who enjoys expressing another aspect of his personality and gains both emotional and physical pleasure from this transition. It is not a hobby, but a necessity and Cross dressing is for life. Cross-dressing is a compulsion, but we must not see it as a sickness. A good wife should tolerate it because the man has no choice, but it isn't too hard to tolerate because it's a gift. It is about fun and pleasure-and it's a necessity. The necessity of cross-dressing is frightening to the men and to their wives, and their wish to tame it, to characterize it as a preference and a gift, is understandable. I come to see why so many women find themselves sympathetic to cross-dressers: women are raised to be sympathetic, and protective toward the vulnerable, and there is something sweet, unexpected, and powerful about being a woman and sympathize with a man not because he demands it but because you genuinely feel sorry for him, for his debilitating envy and his fear of discovery and his sense of powerlessness to live as he wants. One evening Peggy Rudd, writer of “My Husband Wears My Clothes" says, with a slightly pursed expression, "My next book is on joy: the difference between the level of joy that cross-dressers experience"-she holds her hand up over her head-"and the level of joy that their wives experience" Her hand drops to her waist. The cross dressers around us say nothing. They nod, sympathizing with the poor wives left behind and trying not to show how much better a time they are having. I think of the twinkle in Mel's eyes and the fact that nothing like a twinkle ever appears in Peggy's. It must be psychologically exhausting for her to turn this pain into a shared hobby, his compulsion into entertainment, his need into an occasion for celebration, and I still prefer his company.
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