URNotAlone

Pronouns

June 28th, 2008 6:57 am MDT

OK Flying without spell check again.  Topic is pronouns.  This is a sticky point for all transsexuals, because most of the outside world is totaly confused on the proper pronoun to use.  How many newspaper stories have you read talk about a Male to Female transsexual and allways refer to the person as HE?  For some reason the incorrect use of pronouns just get to me.  i know many in my family will use the masculen gender because at this point in time they cannot deal with my status.  That i can understand, do not realy like it but understand.  It taken a while but my wife now uses a gender nurtal term so she can use it no mater what.  But in any type of online statements she allways refers to me as a wife.  But what gets me the most is the use of both terms together, IE Male/female.  As if there are two people.  While this might be true of some transgender it is not true of transsexuals.  i am not two people but one!  i will execpt gruging the male pronoun only because not full time, but prefer the female one.  It at the point where i avoid the public restroom unless it is one for both men and woman.  Finaly it compley makes my day if while in drap mode someone Maams me.  It happening more and more now.  Bottom line when in doubt over pronouns ask, but will assume most prefer the use of the pronoun that reflets the gender they perceve themselves