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Emma Latta
Emma Latta

Good News

August 22nd, 2016 12:03 am EDT

I have had a lot of postives lately in my journey I found out last week that more then likely my srs consult and surgery will be sometime next year which has really turned things around for me and has actually made me feel more positive. It will be 4.5 years from when I started my transition and living fulltime as Emma. 

In some other good news my mom has started refering to me as her daugter which has relieved alot of the depression and stress I was feeling from when I started my transition. She still messes up sometimes but compared to where I started and her saying she will never accept me as Emma and as her daughter I feel I can deal with the times she refers to me as my deadname and gender. 

 

In some even better news I will be graduating from college next year with a paralegal degree whcih has me starting to try to figure out where to go from here.


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MS_Anina
MS_Anina

Girls night out!

August 10th, 2016 12:35 pm EDT

Does anyone know when the Halloween party will be this year?


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Christa Sio...
Christa Sio...

Ripple Effects Event at North Christian Church

August 3rd, 2016 3:35 pm EDT
This is what I said at the Ripple Effects event at North Christian Church on July 12, 2016
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My name is Christa Siobhan Cartwright. This became my legal name on June 28. I am a Transgender girl: Trans girl or t-girl for short. If you knew me, you would love me!
People like me are born with one gender assigned at birth, but we identify with a different gender.
Being a girl in a boy’s body was a disconnect that made me very uncomfortable and self-conscious. This is common for transgender people.
In some cases, this disconnect is so extreme that it causes panic attacks and serious, debilitating spells of gender dysphoria that make it impossible to function. Some trans people, me included, are simply a lot more comfortable presenting as the “opposite gender”. In other cases, the person feels he or she does not fit neatly into either of the standard boxes. These people are often called non-binary.
Ever since I was 5 or 6, I knew I was different from the other kids. All my life I’ve believed that I should have been born a girl. That’s all I ever wanted out of life – to be a girl. Ever since I can remember, I would take every chance I got to dress in girls’ clothing; this included playing dress-up with the other neighborhood girls.
In 1984, my deepest, most embarrassing secret was exposed to a group of kids in my neighborhood who went to my high school.
The secret was this: several years earlier, I purchased a black full slip at a neighbor’s garage sale, and I kept this hidden from my parents, but not from the other girls in the neighborhood. I eventually became embarrassed and disposed of it. This was my first and only total purge. Most trans girls go through purges -- periods where they get rid of all their female clothing and paraphernalia because they are ashamed or afraid of being themselves and they try to “quit”. This is ultimately an expensive exercise in futility. Being transgender is something we have to make peace with – we can’t suppress it forever without serious, tragic consequences.
I was absolutely mortified when this secret was revealed!! I was sure that this would spread rapidly throughout my school and I’d be a laughingstock. I thought I would have to drop out and maybe even take my own life. This terrified me and I went deep into the closet for the next 10 years.
In 1994 I began to emerge while living in New Jersey. Over the next few years, I came out to my friends, joined a support group, went out in public en femme, and contemplated transitioning. Transition is the process of slowly changing from male to female (or vice versa) -- to make one’s outward appearance more congruent with what’s inside.
I decided that it was unrealistic to transition at that point since I was a poor, indebted graduate student. So I resigned myself to merely cross-dressing on occasion.
Over the next 10 years I did this less and less, as I once again had become ashamed of myself.
I spent many years trying to cut it as a man. I lived my life in a shell, lacking confidence and worrying what may happen if my secret got out. I have not dated in over 20 years because I could never figure out how to handle this topic in a relationship. I also did not have the comfort in my own skin, or the confidence to start a relationship.
I resigned myself to merely existing; keeping my female nature bottled up inside me, and just marking time until I would eventually pass away, unmourned.
In early 2013, it became abundantly clear that I could not do this anymore – I couldn’t fake being a man much longer. At the time, I was in the leadership of a very conservative church. I knew that I had to make a radical change in my life. I could not stay at that church any longer. I had to embrace my feminine side to avoid another stay in a psychiatric hospital. So I tied up loose ends at that church and began looking for a more hospitable church home.
Eventually I found an open and affirming church where I could begin my transformation. I did not know how far I would be able to go on this journey, but I was determined to go as far as necessary to achieve the peace that was so lacking in my life up to that point.
In the summer of 2013, I began to venture into public as my true self, Christa.
That August, I began going to church, visiting my parents, and doing my Sunday errands all as Christa. The opportunity to be myself for at least one day every week was what I really needed to jumpstart my transition.
Over the next several months, my confidence and poise grew, and I slowly began to blossom.
I have been on hormone replacement therapy for almost 8 months now. I have been living as a woman 24/7 since mid-April, and I’ve finally begun to feel ALIVE! I have the confidence and self-esteem that I have lacked for most of my life!!! I have a powerful undercurrent of joy that cannot be snuffed out -- not even by all the vile, vicious Trans-hatred we’ve seen recently.
For me, this is not open to theological or political debate – it’s real, it’s my life and the lives of well over 1 million such people in the United States. A recent survey found that about 1.4 million Americans are transgender. I suspect the actual number is quite a bit higher.
Most trans people face extremely long odds. Many are rejected or even hated by family and friends; many lose their jobs and relationships; others are accepted only if they deny who they are. A lot of powerful “Christian” organizations have portrayed us as perverts or predators. Some people have become anti-trans vigilantes because they also view us this way.
Many fundamentalist Christians advocate “conversion therapy” to “cure” trans people of their “mental illness”. Some “doctors” believe that transgender people should be pumped full of hormones that match their birth gender. Neither of these remedies work and both are disastrous for people like us!
Just like everybody else, transgender people need acceptance, we need love, we need compassion, and we need to be able to be who we are!
I am a Transgender Girl. My name is Christa. If you knew me, you would love me.

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Roxie1227
Roxie1227

Expanding Out Possibilites

July 27th, 2016 4:50 pm EDT

Hello to All of the Sensual Beings here in NM & Beyond

I Been expanding My Female Spirit since I moved here from Chicago

I have a Friend Monica who desired to go out & explore the gay bars in ABQ  Dressed in Female attire

So I said WTF if I truly desire to express a side of Me & Yes my body get so Orgasmic when I dress

How can I deny who I be

So I bought some out door outfits so I can GO OUT & this Year I weni to the ABQ Pridefest DRESSED

in the DAY time to expand my Female Spirit what an experience to Be out & about Kiss

Wow as I walked out my apt neighbor saw me she said wow  I kept going said thanks

I wonder what would it take to Exoand out a Girls Night OUT in ABQ & beyond so we can All

Express our True Nature of who we Be

Xoxo

Roxie Kiss


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Diana Renee
Diana Renee

In the Past I asked Why...Today I say Why Not!

July 23rd, 2016 3:50 am EDT

I imagine I am not the only one who questioned all of this. Why these feelings and desires? I felt so much guilt and thought I had some disorder. I tried many times to swear off thinking about what was deep inside me only to find myself depressed and often unpleasant to be around. Eventually I realized I had to do something and started counseling and my world began to change. What I once thought was a curse and something I needed to vanquish chnaged into something I needed to embrace and let surface. Eventually I went from hiding behind closed doors to venturing out and finding others like me. No longer did I let the feelings of guilt rule my life and my outlook changed so dramatically. I started HRT and began to focus on letting the person that had been hidden so deep down out. There have been a few down points along the way but nothing like in the past. I have so much cacthing up to do but I have never felt more positive of my direction.

I titled this I use to ask why...Now I say why not, but actually that was the love of my life who looked at me one day and said Why not Diana? I truly tthink that was the most game changing moment in my life so far!


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Jon
Jon

Some new photos.... Hopefully

July 21st, 2016 4:10 pm EDT

Added a few more photos to my galleries, hope they get approved.


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Adam Chesters
Adam Chesters

make of me what you will

July 17th, 2016 7:16 am EDT

i only wish to be taken serously regarldess of the what you see the perosn you see today was cd some time ago Alice80 , however Adam chesters aka hagar80 is the final format trying to understand the how someone who knows both sides of the coin can find true happiness in life , in Alice80s life it was a means to furfil a sexual need in hagars it finaly ends as need to furfil both to find a like minded individual who accepts somone without boundairies or predjudice , and i find as admirer that predjudice is more common as i m seen as fake or scam , this is not me.


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Adam Chesters
Adam Chesters

Untitled Post

July 16th, 2016 7:07 am EDT

well what to say the road to finding your own sexuality is confusing all my life i have had that confusion nether being able to really decide on which path is the right one for me , even now age 36 i still have had fantasies of being the woman in a sexual relation.  However when you have to decide on a fantasies and real person being loved by another person then you realise that your choice is to either live your life along or share your life with somone who can accept you for what you are have been and will be in the future.


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Marina
Marina

Pigs and Pervs

July 6th, 2016 7:34 am EDT

Is just me or are there too many admiers, pervs and pigs on this sight now.  Wish I could block all of them so it is just us girls.


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Paula
Paula

MTF

June 24th, 2016 2:15 pm EDT

SEnt for hormones today.  Let see what happens!


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